Quick-fix marriages - Marriage as God Intended

As a relationship coach and manager, I have observed a strange trend among engaged couples these days.
I call it ‘Drive-in Marriage’. Drive-in marriages or quick-fix marriages are, more often than not, a retaliatory tool uses by some disengaged folk to taunt their old partner.

This is very common today among young couples. It is a situation whereby in an attempt to get back at a prospect- a guy or a lady, who just broke up with a prospect goes ahead to join him or herself quickly to another person, then gets married almost immediately just to taunt the former partner.

Just imagine how weak the reason why some people get married and have themselves to blame afterwards. Marriage is not a game of chess, rather it is a lifelong decision that calls for intentional and thoughtful commitment.

I know from observations that most unions that begin this way, of course, don’t last, and they are usually full of marital troubles too many for the compromised couple to cope with.
This is simply because the motive for getting married was wrong and their marital foundation has become faulty as a result of this compromise.

That is why I would advise singles to always get the relationship history of their new prospects, because he or she may be someone that wants to marry out of rebellion or pride.

In situations like this, it’s the desperate ones that fall victim easily.
I once counselled a sister who was faced with this kind of scenario.

Her fiancée then was becoming erratic and unstable in his behaviour during courtship which got her really troubled so she came for counselling.

When she told me about him, I counselled her that he can not make a good husband peradventure they get married. I mean he had very visible character flaws that he was not ready to change as it were. So at the end of the day, they went their separate ways. You won’t believe it that just two and a half months later, he wedded another person. As in proper formal wedding, yet he was a church worker and he was in a courtship with this unsuspecting sister for about a year or so. It is certain that this brother married out of rebellion and pride.

Listen to me, in a situation whereby you had to necessarily break up a relationship, please don’t register for a drive-in marriage by quickly getting on with another person in order to mock your immediate past prospect. It’s unnecessary if you want to enjoy a good marriage as God intended.

Take your time, take a break and seek God’s face for a new direction and commitment. Also, give yourself time to recover from the emotional and mental damage to the last affair.
Often, those who initiate such marriages are relationship dropouts, who are unwilling to change some obvious unsavoury behaviours that could hinder the reality of a successful and blissful marriage. But due to a rebellious heart, such ones walk out of the relationship since they believe they can have their way with another person. Then they get married to an unsuspecting victim.

And like I said earlier their victims are commonly the desperate ones.

I remember handling another case. This time around, the guy (brother) wanted sex before the wedding and the sister turned down his unkind request. Following this, he left her and soon he was joined with another sister I think in the same church.
This is what seems to be trending among some young people who do not understand marriage as a destiny making platform for men and women as established by God.
And most of them are not telling a good marriage story after they get caught in this drive-in marriage (quick fix union).

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