It amounts to daydreaming for couples to think they can reap intimacy in marriage when they are distant from each other, even though they are living under one roof. Often, in relationships, distance is not measured by just space or location but by mental and emotional connections.

It is sometimes puzzling to me how some married couples manage to exist in such a strained environment. Two individuals living together day and night, yet lacking a cordial relationship and consistent communication. This situation can be incredibly frustrating and exhausting. If not addressed promptly, it can take a toll on one’s well-being. Personally, I could not endure such circumstances with my spouse, even for a single day.

I understand that, at times, communication in marriage can be very challenging and demanding for a couple who have not mastered how to reconcile their differences. Nonetheless, they must find a way to grow their emotional and interpersonal connections. If they don’t, it will be very difficult for them to experience the benefits of intimacy in their marriage while they are still emotionally distant, therefore relating to their spouses like a next-door neighbour. It doesn’t work out that way, no, not at all. Intimacy will remain a far cry in marriages if couples don’t enjoy talking to each other regularly or if they don’t feel free around each other.

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There should be a regular check-up on each other as a couple, even if it’s through the phone during the day, among a few other things that build intimacy. In fact, many times, I could be just one hour or thirty minutes away from home, and I will still put a call across to my wife just to mention something to her. 
This has been our lifestyle as a couple for more than a decade.

On her side as well, my wife involves me in virtually all of her concerns or decisions, from official matters to personal plans. It’s so profound that I know her colleagues quite well (mostly positively) even though I have not yet had physical contact with them. Moreover, I understand how her office operates as if I were a staff member. These and other parameters of intimacy have greatly helped us over time. Conjugal intimacy is more of a lifestyle founded on mutual understanding and affection for each other than on a geographical or physical connection.

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That is why, in a situation where a career path or training takes one of the couple away for a few weeks running into months, most things will still be under control, including intimacy since it’s already part of both of them. So, not being around each other for a reasonable length of time will not matter much or cause any adverse effects. The communication and interactions will still be as if you are together, and it will be so natural and less burdensome to keep in touch.

Physical distance has little or no impact on truly close friends and couples.

Keeping to yourself at home (due to misunderstandings) and sharing deep personal/family issues with a third party instead of your partner increases the distance between both of you and hinders a close relationship. Intimacy has many invaluable and all-encompassing benefits, but if you are not devoted to building it together with your spouse, you can not reap its fruits.

©️ Seyi Igunsabi-Perez for M.A.G.I

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