Understanding purpose is very fundamental to making the right choice of partner BECAUSE YOU NEED TO KNOW WHERE YOU ARE GOING SO THAT YOU WILL KNOW WHOM TO TAKE ALONG WITH YOU. Your purpose is more than your marriage, never lose sight of that if you want to have a successful and purpose driven marital relationship.
Even the Bible says: “Can two walk together except they be agreed.” Amos 3:3.
The message translation says : “Do two people walk hand in hand if they aren’t going to the same place? Amos 3:3 | MSG
The person you marry will either help you fulfill your destiny gloriously or frustrate it effortlessly. So, your choice of the right partner is a matter that truly matters. Let me share how I landed a purpose-driven relationship that metamorphosed into my dream marriage that I have today.
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Firstly, I made up my mind that I must not make a mistake in choosing a life partner. Decision!
That was one thing that positioned me for a purpose-driven relationship back then. Why?
I understood very early as a young believer that God has a great and enviable plan and purpose for my life. I discovered this through reading books and developing my spiritual hearing ability.
So, I knew that I would not marry just anybody who appeals to me or catches my fancy. Rather, I trusted God for someone who would appeal to my destiny and purpose in life. So, that is the starting point.
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Have you even found out your purpose in life and in Christ, or are you just living life as it comes? I knew that whoever I marry would either help me maximise my destiny and fulfil my purpose or I would have a life of regret and misery to show for it if I missed it.
So, this gave me focus; therefore, I was able to minimise and eradicate distractions—sisters who just wanted a brother as a husband and not a destiny companion. Nothing goes for nothing.
By God’s grace, I am not surprised that God gave me a great wife and a marriage that has been a blessing to me in the last 20 years. I was intentional about whom I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. So, there were sisters who didn’t appeal to me at all then. For example, if you are in a bus going to Oshodi (a major town in Lagos West) and your destination is Oshodi, will you come down at Oworonshoki or Gbagada (settlements before Oshodi town) just because the bus stop name sounds good in your ear? Of course not. As a purpose-driven child of God, when it comes to relationships, there are individuals who should not get your attention at all because they don’t resemble your destination.
Those days, on campus, once I sensed that you were trying to have a relationship with me at all costs, I distanced myself from such desperate sisters. I had the opportunity to take advantage of a few sisters during my campus days, but I declined because I didn’t want engaging in such sensual acts to distance me from God’s ultimate plan for my marriage.
And I thank God I have a better story to tell today.
©️ Seyi Igunsabi-Perez for M.A.G.I
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