What has worked for us - Marriage as God Intended

What has worked for us as a couple in almost two decades?

Today, many young people are afraid to get married because they believe marriage is a scam or an organized crime against their lives. However, there is not an iota of truth in this. This is disturbing to me as a pastor and counsellor. I think the problem lies in the fact that they hear more news about failed marriages and broken relationships than they hear about those of us who are getting it right. However, it’s important to let people out there know that marriage is God’s good plan for mankind, and it’s working for all who believe in its principles.

Please understand this: marriage was God’s idea from the beginning, not man’s. Marriage is a product of divinity and inherently has what it takes to work and succeed in it. It’s just like the phone you bought, your TV set, or a newly purchased car. These products, like marriage, have been designed to work and serve a good purpose. So, principally, no marriage should not work because marriage is an idea of divinity that could not have been designed to fail. Often, marriages fail or experience setbacks because of the individuals in them, not because marriage has any bad side to it.

I dare say there is no bad side to marriage as a divine institution if couples are willing to make the most of it against all odds. In fact, there is nothing called marital problems in the real sense of the word. It is individuals who are problematic that get married and bring their problems into the marriage. Don’t let anyone deceive you; there are a lot of good marriages out there, both in the church and outside it. By God’s grace, mine is one of them.

Truly, every marriage is unique in many ways, but the principles that make a marriage work and be almost seamless are constant and universal. So, whenever the success or bliss of a marriage is threatened or compromised, look back to the couple, not the institution itself. This is the truth, nothing but the truth. The principles that make a marriage work are no respecter of persons, race, skin colour, educational qualifications, nationality, or opinions. Below are the timeless principles of marriage as God intended which have been of immense help to our robust and peaceful coexistence as an intentional couple.

1. WE CHERISH OUR PEACE AS A COUPLE.

We know, as a knowledge-driven couple, that a house divided against itself cannot stand. We know that if we are not at peace with each other, we will limit our progress as a couple in many ways at any given time.

Psalm 133:1-3
“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is
For brethren to dwell together in unity! “It is like the precious oil upon the head, running down on the beard, the beard of Aaron, running down on the edge of his garments.” Psalms 133:3: “It is like the dew of Hermon, descending upon the mountains of Zion; for there the LORD commanded the blessing—life forevermore.”

A peace-loving couple does not give room to selfishness. A peace-loving couple is quick to discern unsolicited negative third-party influences and eliminate them. When you are a peaceful individual, you will prioritize your actions and decisions. You will weigh them to ensure they don’t cause any cracks in the wall of your marriage. This craving for peacefulness in our marriage has helped us not to have any misunderstandings that last more than 24 hours. More so, we know that peace in marriage has a greater tendency to stray than to stay (Heb. 12:14).

©️ Seyi Igunsabi-Perez for M.A.G.I

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