When it comes to marriage foundational matters, no wise individual who is starting a marital relationship would turn a blind eye to them. Marriage is such a delicate and commitment-driven affair that you cannot afford to go into it with a porous mental, spiritual, or emotional foundation.
Often, if you know what constitutes the marriage foundation of an intending or newlywed couple, you can predict the future of that marriage.
The truth is, no marriage would be more prosperous and progressive than its foundation. The majority, if not all, of couples who are doing well in marriage and, invariably, in life, more often than not, owe it to their foundations, among other things. A lot of couples who are not getting along well and others who subject themselves to serious pressures in marriage are in that state because they compromised marriage foundational issues.
Just like the biblical saying, “If the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?” When intending couples fail to meet the requirements of what constitutes a solid marital foundation, they are also compelled to put up with the dire consequences. Oftentimes, the stronger and more defined the marital foundation, the more assured the future of such marital relationships is in many positive senses.
Singles who dream to get married someday or intending couples must always check their foundations and those of their intending spouses to see if they can build a strong, healthy, and long-lasting marriage on such foundations.
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You cannot give what you don’t have, even with regard to foundations. For example, a foundation prepared for a two-story building will not suffice for a skyscraper with eighteen floors.
As a marital counsellor, I see a lot of people trying to blame their spouses, parents, extended family members, or friends for their marital woes and lingering crises, whereas often their marital ills are more related to foundational issues of marriage than anything else.
The marriage foundation is so vital to marital success and progress that anyone who compromises it always regrets it.
The marriage foundation majorly covers our beliefs about God, life, and marriage itself. It also speaks of the values we uphold, especially the spiritual aspect. The marriage foundation emphasises the need for those who are getting married to place a higher value on their characters than their personalities and possessions.
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I submit to you that in any marriage where these foundational issues are well appropriated and made a priority for settling down with an individual, such affairs are always strong, reliable, and productive.
Lastly, we must take great caution in ensuring that we build the right and strong marital foundations before embarking on the journey of marriage because foundations are not often repairable. No foundation forms itself; people build it, and it’s what they put into it that determines what it will carry or how long it’s able to sustain what is being laid on it.
©️ Seyi Igunsabi-Perez for M.A.G.I.
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