Getting it right in the choice of a life partner is very germane to getting it right in life, especially if you have an inclination for marriage.

To be forewarned is to be forearmed. So don’t rush into marriage. Don’t package yourself for a wedding without being prepared for marriage. Marriage will undoubtedly expose you. Wedding is not marriage and marriage is not a wedding.

Wedding is a day, marriage is for life. Wedding is all about merriment, marriage is all about commitment.

Hence, you must be careful not to marry a person who will dash your marriage and life dreams.

In this write up ( an excerpt from one of my seminars)- I have been able to highlight fifteen traits that should repel you from entering into marriage with anyone that displays one or more of these characters.

1. Never Marry A Person Who Hides You From Family Members And Important People In His Or Her Life- A Long Way Into The Relationship.

There is no room for secrecy in a relationship that will lead to marriage. It is very dangerous and it could be a marital trap.

As soon as both of you have agreed to start a relationship that will lead to marriage, important personalities in your lives should be carried along.

2. Never Marry A Guy or Lady Whose Trustworthiness Is In Clear Doubt.

I mean, don’t marry a person you can not trust completely. It always ends in regret. Trust is the blood of any viable relationship. Any marriage/relationship that lacks trust is non-existent in the first place.

3. Don’t Marry Dependents (On Family And Friends). 

They are like aprons tied to their mother’s waist. 

These are people who can not take decisions all by themselves and accept responsibility for it. They love to do things only when their family members or friends have ratified it, whether it is right or it’ll be detrimental to their relationship, that is not their concern

4. Don’t Marry Explosives.

Also known as ‘Naked Wires’. These are those with hot and uncontrollable anger. They scarcely hide it even while in a relationship that will lead to marriage. Funnily, some of them even boast about their anger and the havoc it can lead to.

There is NO love that can survive an individual who gets angry uncontrollably. They are usually spoilers of life, destiny, dreams and property.

5. Never Marry A GOD Hater.

Dear singles I plead with
you in the name of Jesus- don’t start a relationship with a God hater, talk more of marrying such a person.

Who is a God hater?
A God hater does not write it on his or her forehead.
So how do I identify a God hater?
A God hater likes what God hates and in turn, hates what God likes.

6. Never Marry A Novice in Spiritual Things.

I once heard Apostle Johnson Suleman said to a group of singles- “Never marry a brother or sister who is not spiritual.”
I agree with him 110% .

Marriage is a spiritual union, or how do two become one flesh if it’s not a spiritual thing.
There are a lot of things about marriage that are more than the physical experiences and connections, that’s why you need a spiritual partner.
A spirtutal novice is an amateur in spiritual things. Hence, he or she can sheepishly flip back to the other side under intense pressure (Matt. 13:20-21).

7. Never Marry An Emotional Tanker.

A person who is an emotional tanker is usually governed more by his or her feelings than his or her reasoning.
In relationships you don’t place your feelings before your reasoning, it will mislead you and it could plunge you into costly marital mistakes.

This kind of guys and ladies are usually jealous of others unnecessarily.
They want their spouse to have nothing to do with the opposite sex.

8. Never Marry A Pity Party Person.

Maybe he or she just lost his or her parents within a short span and as a close friend to the bereaved you chose to be a permanent comforter, then you initiate a marriage process. No! That is very risky to fulfilling your destiny.

See also, 20 Things Couples Do That Lead to Spousal Abuse.

Moreso, if God has not expressly laid it on your mind. You don’t marry anybody on the premise of pity.

9. Don’t Marry A Church Bench Warmer, Except You Are One.

I guess this would sound like an extreme assertion to some readers. But I don’t have any intention to be harsh in my counsel. This is just a frank talk.

My submission is based on the fact that any guy or lady who has not learnt to accept responsibility for serving his or her creator actively, would hardly do well in showing responsible behaviours towards others especially his or her spouse.

10. Never Marry a ‘Fast Food’ Guy/Lady.

This refers to people who love to ignore due process. In many cultures and Christian faith denominations, there are proper ways to go about getting married.

If you are engaged to someone who is easily wearied by these standards and processes, that is a bad sign. These are the kind of people who marry without parental consent and trample on the church authorities because of their eagerness to get married.

11. A Carbonated (Corked) Guy or Lady.

These ones love to cork up their feelings and misgivings.  They are too secretive. And they lack the courage to bring up important issues to the discussion table.

People like these will frustrate good communication in marriage. They will rather prefer to withdraw into their shell than to talk about issues bothering them.

12. Never Marry a Shoprite Guy or Lady.

This must sound familiar to anybody. Like the prices of goods in shoprite are fixed and non-negotiable, these ones are rigid and stubborn in nature. They are opinionated and unteachable.

Even when their stance on a matter is clearly unhealthy to nurturing a successful relationship, they are not willing to shift their stand. Often because of pride and ignorance.

13. Stay Far Away From The Unforgiving.

These are dangerous to all relationships. They don’t easily let go of offenses.

Such people prefer to water the root of bitterness towards their spouse for as long as possible than dwell in peace and harmony with their spouse. An unforgiving spirit will easily frustrate the progress of a marriage or a family.

14. Don’t Marry an NFA Individual (No Future Ambition/Vision)

Never consider a guy or a lady without a well spelt out dream or vision for life.

Marrying a person without clear cut visions and an understanding of his or her purpose in life is like entering a bus whose destination is nowhere. Expectations will not be met, opportunities will be scarce and fulfilment will elude you.

He or she will slow you down.

15. Never Marry An Antagonist.

Any partner or prospect that is consistently kicking against you, your reasonable opinions and your considerable stance on issues is a red light when it comes to making a choice of a life partner. Such ones end up as domineering and oppressive. A person who is always antagonising you can not make a good husband or wife.

He or she will hardly have your interest at heart. He or she cannot be supportive of your life dreams and visions wholeheartedly.

© MAGI

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