The indices of senseless love - Marriage as God Intended

The indices of senseless love are always obvious to everyone who cares to understand the meaning of true love and seeks one.

These days many people, most especially the youngsters, seem to be taking the concept of real love for granted and out of context. Little wonder why many marriages and relationships have also become grounded in the relationship world. Love is more than emotions; however, it is disturbing that majority of love birds all over the streets are not admitting to this. And this is preventing them from having valuable and fulfilling relationships-cum-marriages.

Love is more of an attitude than some romantic feelings and emotional fantasies. It is a decision based on knowledge and a conviction born out of a commitment to love in truth and with knowledge.

We are in a time when both the married and the unmarried see marriage as a nightmare. To some, the talk of marriage or the idea of getting married is like trespassing in a danger zone. What a misnomer! Whereas marriage is a fantastic idea that God came up with for the betterment and fulfillment of mankind. By divine design, marriage is supposed to be a leverage for all people who are given to marriage to enable them to maximize their destiny. I must point out here that: love is not marriage; love is only an aspect of the marriage covenant practice.

The problem with several young people going into relationships nowadays is that they seem to have overblown the concept of love as it relates to marriage. Hence, we see them misrepresenting love in various ways and even try to build a lifelong union on such misleading notions about love. Furthermore, they are caught in what I call emotional trap, which they interpret as love. The resultant effect is that these intending couples end up as victims of wrong and weird decisions about their love life and causalities of a deceitful love affair.

All in the name of love, some folks find themselves in relationships that are directionless, senseless and destructive to their destiny. Also, this love thing has made a lot of them go into relationships that would culminate in marriage that they should not have any business with in the first place.

We are in days when many singles and married are trapped in relationships and marriages that are demeaning to their lives. Relationships that are shameful and discrediting to them and their life dreams. And often than not, it is because they refused to learn what they ought to know or they are not applying the relevant knowledge at their disposal, especially as it relates to the ideology of true love.

Prov. 19:2

“Also it is not good for a soul to be without knowledge , And he sins who hastens with his feet.”

The truth is, most of the headaches, broken hearts and hurting experiences that many people suffer in their love relationships are avoidable. But many walked into it because of their wanton passion and unguided step, besides ignorance of mind they have towards the truths about marriage matters.

I wonder why someone will still be seeking advice over a love that does not make sense from all indications. Such Individuals often than not are nothing but lovesick. You see, when people are lovesick or infatuated, they don’t think straight. I can say with all authority that people who equate being lovesick with true love are often the victims of love that is senseless and hurtful. There are instances when the love affair going on between two persons does not make sense at all, due to the fact that their actions and reactions, attitudes and characters, are counterproductive to what true love represents. Yet some individuals still go ahead to peak in that relationship (that is marry), only for them to regret it afterwards.

When love doesn’t make sense, one of the sensible things to do is not to linger around it, if you do, it will overwhelm you and destroy your chance for a sensible and true love experience. Besides, your chance for glorious marital journey and fulfilling experience may be lost forever to carnal love. So when love doesn’t make sense, it is wisdom to escape for your life and marriage.

Below Are Some instances You Should Be Aware Of That Reveal Clearly Love Relationships That Do Not Make Sense In Terms of Building Robust and Fulfilling Relationships That Would Last.

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1. Any love that can not be trusted can not make sense in the end.

Falling in love in with someone you do not trust is leading yourself into a serious emotional trap. Why share your life, your heart , your passion and even your body with someone you cannot vouch for or that doesn’t trust you completely? Do you want to to kill yourself before your time. This reminds me of the sad story of the Lekki guy in Lagos, Nigeria, who killed his fiancée and then poisoned himself in the same instance. At the base of their problem was trust. Any love relationship that is questionable on the ground of trust can destroy you, cut short your destiny and wreck your life dreams. Take note! It doesn’t make any sense to be neck deep with such a person maritally and emotionally.

1 Corinth. 13:7- says “love believes all things”. Love trusts. And this trust must cut across. Don’t be afraid to keep yourself if you are trustworthy or you are someone that cherish trust, soon or later you will meet a person like you. If you can not close your two eyes as touching his or commitment to you, look well before you peak in that love affair.

2. Rebound love hardly makes sense.

This is a situation whereby someone who has just jilted a friend or was jilted, decides to jump on another love Chariot to make him or her feel loved again just to spite the ‘ex’. And this usually happens almost immediately after they broke away from their ex. Watch it, such love don’t end well. I know a few persons who fell into this kind of love and they regretted it sorely. Majority do suffer in this kind of love world. There was a case I handled recently. A sister, a Christian worker, had been going out with a brother for about two, three years, then something went wrong and they both parted ways. And just almost immediately, I don’t think it was up to six months, she started dating another brother in the same church just to spite her ex. But in less than a year that relationship went sour too and this time around the sister left with a serious scar which she didn’t sustain in the first relationship.

Be wary of those who seek rebound all in the name love. Such love don’t end well and you can hardly make any sense out of it in the long run.

3. If you have to betray a friend or your spouse in the name of a newly found love, that is a stupid and wicked love, it will boomerang in the end.

I advise you flee such love. Never fall in love with your close friend’s date if they did not part in peace and without scar in either of them. That kind of love doesn’t make sense in the end. It’s a love tainted with betrayal. This was the kind of love that Portiphar’s wife tried to establish with Joseph, her house-boy. But he was wise to turn it down without hesitation. Betrayal love will be betrayed in the end, love wisely.

4. Love that can not tell the truth or hear the truth does not make sense for a union like marriage.

If you are in love with someone you can not tell the truth about their unruly behaviours and about what God expects from them, then that love will backfire soon or later. Moreover, any prospect or partner you can not talk to about the unfriendly and unloving actions he or she puts up will land you in regrettable affair. Think deep before you marry him or her if you are single. Love rejoices in and embraces truth. 1 Corinth. 13:6.

5. Forceful Love does not make sense.

Forcing oneself on a prospect is an obvious of a kind of love that will not lead anywhere reasonable given obvious reasons. This was the forceful affection Amnon had towards Tamar, his half-sister. It was devastating to him in the end.

When there is no good and decent reason to enter into a love affair with a person but you continue with such a person, that is forceful love. I have seen this played out among a few intending couples that I have had the privilege to counsel. Would you believe some ladies force love on some guys, even brothers in the church, by seducing them to make love to them and become pregnant in the process? Pathetically, some ‘innocent’ but carefree brothers (guys) have been caught in this net. Beware!

6. Any love that dwells critically on what you have or don’t have is an immaterial/irrelevant love. Avoid it.

Material status is often immaterial when we talk about a true and sensible love affair. Be careful! True Love is first of the heart before anything else. True love is immaterial but flourishes with gifts and comfort over time. However, the presence or absence of physical possessions can not be used to measure a sound and promising love relationship. We ought to place priority on marrying people for who they are and not for what they have.

7. When the person you want to marry or you are in love with drags his or her feet before he or she meets the people that matter in your life, then you know that you are in a love affair that may not make sense in the end.

Those who have been part of your life must not be treated like Scaffolds because of your newly found love; it’s always regrettable to do such. Be warned! Any lover that is wary to meet the people that have been part of your life is a suspect and may have skeleton in the cupboard. Prospects who have zero regards for your biological and spiritual parents and other important persons in your life will end up witch-hunting you in that marriage. Then you will not have who to cry to or call on when your spouse is in the wrong. And soon you will realize you have been caught in a wrong and senseless love.

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