The three-way test of great marriages and relationships- is a write-up meant to serve as an unmistakable guide to singles folks planning to get married.
Ephesians 5:8-10 | MESSAGE BIBLE
8 “You groped your way through that murk once, but no longer. You’re out in the open now. The bright light of Christ makes your way plain. So no more stumbling around. Get on with it!“
9 ‘THE GOOD, THE RIGHT, THE TRUE—THESE are the actions appropriate for daylight hours.“
10 “Figure out what will please Christ, and then do it.”
From the bible passage above I am about to show you the indisputable three-way test of any relationship that will survive the storms and fire while enabling one to still enjoy marriage and make most of life with one’s spouse.
The ninth verse of the fifth book of Ephesians summarises my points. It says “for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth. These three factors, I believe, would set the foundation for a great and destiny enhancing relationship-cum-marriage anywhere in the world.
TEST NO 1: IS IT GOOD FOR ME? Which means, it must appeal to You.
Now, how would you know if a relationship is good to go or not?
1) It is good if your prospect believes in you and recognizes your significance in his or her life. Never get serious with a person who talks down on you and is always finding fault with you. Even Jesus in Matt. 10:11-13, told His disciples to respect those who receive them and disconnect from those who reject them.
2) A good relationship must be defined. If it not well spelt out, then don’t waste your time around it. Don’t force yourself on anyone who does not want a serious and defined relationship with you. They will most likely break your heart and you won’t believe your eyes.
For example, a brother who keeps admiring you and hangs around you for 6months to 1year- without coming out plain to say “I want to marry you”, is not someone to take serious if you love yourself. Move on with your life; such a relationship is not good for you.
3) Trust among other things makes a relationship good and viable. Never go far with anybody who does not trust you or you can not trust all the way. If you do, you have enrolled for a degree in ‘Suspicionlogy’. You will always sit on the edge of that relationship and your peace will depart from you soon or later.
4) It is good for you if it’s a morale-boosting relationship. I meant you should feel hopeful that you are going out with this person. In some cases, it may not even boost your morale from the beginning, maybe because the person in question falls short of one or two of your expectations. But if you’re in God’s will, your morale should pick with time. Don’t waste time in any relationship where your prospect often demoralizes you. That is, every time, you find yourself saying things like-“ I wish I could just end this relationship,” or “I don’t see a future with this guy (lady), then it’s a significant sign that such a relationship is not good enough to end in marriage.
5) In a good relationship your prospect will seek your betterment. In other words, your improvement (on every side) will be his or her commitment and delight. Such a person is often there for you, to give some advice, a little encouragement, now and then, that you need to keep the faith and remain strong in the spirit, career, business or otherwise, as the case may be.
He or she sees you as a true partner in progress and not threatened by your progress at any given time.
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TEST NO 2: IS THIS RIGHT FOR ME? That is to say, it must appeal to your destiny.
Talking about the right part of a relationship, note the following:
I. Never settle with a person who does not believe in your dreams and assignment in life. That is why you should know and understand your purpose before entering relationships. Your life and assignment is greater than your marriage. Your marriage is only an aspect but a vital part of your entire purpose for existence. There’s more to you than your marriage.
The right partner will corroborate your life aspirations and dreams, and not trample on them.
Please read the concluding part here .
©️ MAGI (Seyi Igunsabi)
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