Indices of a great relationship-cum-marriage.

2. If it’s right, he or she will be concerned about your God-given dreams and aspirations

What this means is that- in the right relationship your prospect would encourage you till you experience the joy of fulfillment in the pursuit of your dreams and vision. Your career progress, business lift, and a better work-life will be a good concern to him or her. If your success or progress in the pursuit of your dreams and life goals makes your prospect uncomfortable, watch it.

I once heard of a man who said he can not marry a woman who earns more than him. What a malicious and ignoramous mentality. Trust me, any woman who marries this kind of man will suffer and would probably not amount to anything enviable, so long as the man is in her life. This kind of guy or brother can best be described as a coward. He has an inferiority complex problem. Come down from his boat if you don’t want to sink your life and destiny.

As a guy any lady who also feels threatened by your zealous and focused mind towards your life, career, and business goals; be wary of such.

3. This is for aspiring women folks– if you have a dream to be an influencer of people and make maximum impact in your chosen field listen to this. If your prospect (a guy) is talking about you dropping all those beautiful dreams to only take care of the children and the house, please pause. I challenge you to think twice, that is not a right and fulfilling affair for you. You are his wife, not his nanny; the helper (of his destiny) not a house help. He must admit to the fact that you too have the destiny to fulfill and your destiny is not to be a house help or a children rearer. Nonetheless, you should be fully prepared to take responsibility for raising responsible children with him.

The life of an average woman is more than rearing children. Nowadays most of the top executive positions in notable industries likely banking, insurance, and communication are now being occupied by females, especially in Africa. What if their husbands had confined them to raising children and arranging the beds only? I am not saying there can not be an understanding between a couple for the woman to spend quality time with the children’s upbringing.

My point is- by marriage concept the value of a woman and her purpose transcend rearing children; so she must not be COERCED to step down her extensive value-adding life for being a mere ‘nanny’ or full-time housewife as it were.
Mind you, many women are pursuing their dreams and living a very significant life yet they have well brought up children.

I imagine, if I had had such a stance with my wife when we got married 15 years ago, I would have probably killed her before her time and buried her career dream that she’s been pursuing for over 16years now. She is an addicted career person, I knew it when we got married so we settled for house help. We had over ten of them in ten years.

As a career person for almost two decades, my wife has been a tremendous blessing to the family and an indescribable burden-bearer to us.

TEST NO 3: IS IT A TRUE AFFAIR?

That is how is this relationship going to draw me nearer to God and His kingdom (Matt. 6:33).

The following should guide you:

1. When it comes to marriage, you don’t have any business to do with a person who makes God and His Word a second fiddle in his or her life. Anyone that downplays the urgency of obeying God in matters that concern them and their marital union, is not worth your time, talk of a relationship with you.

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There is a story of a brother who discontinued his wedding plan two weeks before the wedding day because the sister did everything possible to have sex with him that period so that she could spoil his testimony and disrupt God’s call upon his life. Although somehow he uncovered it, later it was discovered that it was intentional on her side. It was also revealed that she was on an evil mission in that brother’s life.

2. If your prospect or spouse still lies occasionally– you will have problem with God in that marriage or relationship.

A man that would lie before God and clean his mouth, will lie to you and not even bother to wipe his mouth. Be warned! Christians marry brethren that tell lies while in Courtship, then they lament about trusting their partner in marriage. What kind of lamentations is that? You winked at it, now you must live it.

3. Anybody who sees spiritual exercises and engagements as a burden will slow down your destiny. 1 Corinth. 2:14. “But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.” You will puncture your destiny with such a person in your life. Anyone who does not make pleasing God his or her utmost can not be a true partner that would help you fulfill the glorious destiny ahead of you.

So as you enter any relationship, remember it must pass the GRT test. It must be Good, Right and True.

©️ MAGI

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