How to choose the right life partner without regrets should be the goal of every single and unmarried that want to be happily married. However, many intending couples play down this very important goal yet they still want to have the results. Hence, the challenge of starting their union on the wrong foot because of the mistaken choice of their life partner.

Over the years, I have discovered that what wrecks most marital relationships is nothing but IGNORANCE. Series of counselling session I have had have proved that most singles and intending couples are often victims of an ignorant mind towards the concept and significance of an institution like marriage. Many of them seem to be oblivious to the fact that marriage is a union of mutual benefit-cum- responsibility and a unique kind of life.
If you want to have a great marriage you must admit to the fact that: Being single is a kind of life and being married is a different kind of lifestyle entirely.
The question now is: How prepared are you for the difference?

It is also pertinent to say, the person you choose to marry will determine the foundation of your marriage and the kind of marriage you will have eventually.
The foundation of your marital relationship inevitably gives a clue to the type of structure you will be able to build on it.
Similarly, it is your depth that will always set the pace for your height in anything including marriage. Below are further nuggets for making the right choice of partner.

2. Once You Make Your Choice, Your Choice Starts Making You. Watch It.

I learnt this from Pastor Bimbo Odukoya of blessed memory – I first stumbled on this statement in her book ‘How to choose a life Partner’. And it made a lot of sense to me back then and it does even much more, now. Perhaps that is why I have not forgotten it since about 22years ago I read the book.
Please understand this, in most cases, whatever becomes your experience in marriage is largely a function of your choice ab Initio. Therefore, you have to accept responsibility for it either way.
So, look well if you want to go well and end well in that marital relationship.

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According to a renowned clergyman in Nigeria, Dr D.K. Olukoya of Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministry: “What you become in future is dependent on the choice of partner.” This is visibly true and sacrosanct too.
That is why I do say that – “Choice of partner equals choice of destiny.”
Don’t let anybody deceive you to marry just anybody available, thinking that another person may not come your way or you will experience a delay in getting married. Lie!
Who you marry can make or mar your destiny, let go and let God.
Remember Ananias and Sapphira. She married a liar or rather he married a liar and that cost them their destinies. Acts 5:1 & 2.

“Never marry a person you can not vouch for, they will betray you and take advantage of you at last.”

For instance, if she had been someone who is given to the truth always, she would have advised her husband against that unhealthy move. And if the husband insisted, she would have saved her self.

Also, if we consider the great and irrecoverable loss Naomi and her family suffered in Moab, we can conclude that it was largely because she married a man who does not understand divine purpose and who does not walk in the spirit (Ruth 1:1- 8). Unlike Isaac who blossomed with his wife and children in Gerar because he knew how to hear God among other things.

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I have counselled people who have been traumatized in life just because of the person they married. Safe your head from some avoidable marital headache by trusting God to help you make the right choice and He will (Prov. 3:5 & 6).

3. When It Comes To Whom To Marry, Terms And Condition Always Apply.

Never make small this point I have just made. The Lord told me this by Himself. Over the years I have learnt to listen to God and sometimes, He even gives me clear unmistakable insights into my various teachings. “When it comes to whom to marry, terms and condition always apply.” It means the decision about whom to marry is not an open-ended one neither is it supposed to be a weird and carefree attempt as well. As a single, you need to be guided and knowledgeable when choosing a life mate.

According to the inventor of the marriage covenant, there are conditions and terms for getting married, staying married and for enjoying the marriage union. So you can not decide to do it your way and still end up with His results or provisions in a marital relationship.

Talking about terms and conditions, for instance, you are not supposed to marry anybody out of emotions or assumptions, always ensure they meet the terms and conditions set by God who knows the end of everyone from their mother’s womb.
Never marry a person you can not vouch for, they will betray you and take advantage of you at last.
Never marry a nice guy or lady if he or she is not a certified child of God. A person can be nice but unregenerated. Be wise.

In the wrap-up message on this subject, I will highlight a few steps that could help any unmarried person make an unmistakable choice of a life partner. Thank you.

©️ MAGI

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