By Seyi IGUNSABI.

THE TRUTH IS: “YOU CAN’T HEAR GOD WHEN IT COMES TO WHOM TO MARRY, IF HEARING GOD HAS NEVER BEEN YOUR LIFESTYLE BEFORE.”

For some years now, quite a number of young people have been visiting a bookstore i manage to ask for books on ‘How to hear the voice of God’ or ‘How you can be led by the Spirit of God’. Perhaps you too have visited a bookstore for a similar reason?

In the event of this patronage, as I would have suspected, sometimes I try to find out – Why they want to purchase a book so titled. And I discovered that majority of them needed it because they were trusting God for a marriage partner at that time or probably because someone just proposed.

Following this discovery, I frankly counsel them that getting books that address such issues simply because one only wants to know God’s will in marriage, may not be helpful after all at such instances.

When young Christians who have been living their spiritual and physical lives majorly on their own terms up to the point marriage suddenly start looking for spiritual ear cleaner (in books) so as to be able to hear from God about choosing a life partner, one does need to be told that something is definitely wrong with that.

Waiting to hear God only at the point of choosing a life partner is like trying to take advantage of God to achieve a selfish aim. And of course, it’s not unlikely that such sincerely ‘confused’ and ‘indecisive’ individuals would afterwards dump hearing of the voice of God again until another serious need arises for it.
Please listen singles- hearing and discerning the voice of the Spirit cum walking in divine direction, does not work that way.

Being able to hear God stems from having a robust personal and active relationship with Him afore time.
More so, hearing God’s voice can not be done in isolation.
That is, you can not decide when and what you want God to speak to you about.

Yet this is what many believers, young and old, seem to practise these days. They want to hear God only in the area they choose; but they would do what seem good to them (not Him) in other aspects.
Hearing God must be all encompassing as touching matters of life and godliness, and you must be consistent in doing so.

Related, You Can’t Wait This Long To Get It Wrong.

God wants and loves to lead us (His children- Rom. 8:14; Isa. 48:17) while giving us every detail of His plans and promises for our lives that would translate to a beautiful and glorious living. But He requires our corporation from the beginning of our journey with Him not just when we need to hear from Him once in a while to meet some personal selfish needs.

That is not healthy as it were and it denies the true form of godliness we proclaim as sons and daughters of a Loving Father, the Most High God.
Remember, as many as are led are the sons and daughters of God, and not users of God’s voice or direction for selfish reasons.
God will guide you continually as long as you are prepared to have a relationship with Him even in seemingly little or unimportant things.

Hearing God’s voice about whom to marry is so crucial to laying a solid foundation for a blissful and fulfilling marital life. This is sacrosanct. Let no one deceive you, there is no one who should tell you or recommend to you the person you should spend the rest of your life with, besides God.

Because He is the only one who knows the end of all things and all men from the beginning. As such, He is the only perfect Match Maker.

Don’t jeopardize your life and marriage by choosing a life partner on the basis of emotions and materialism without a clear divine conviction.

May you fulfill you glorious marital destiny in Jesus name. Amen.

Check this too, ONCE YOU MAKE YOUR CHOICE, YOUR CHOICE STARTS MAKING YOU.