By Seyi Igunsabi.

14 Marital Common Sense That Have Been Kept Away From Most Troubled couples.

Often it takes common sense to tackle common marital conflicts.
But most couples have overlooked them to their detriment.
Check out some of these common marital senses I have highlighted below.

1. Once you marry, your spouse comes before every other person in your life because you are one.

You can not afford to love anybody more than yourself. You are to love your neighbour like yourself. And your spouse is not a neighbour as it were, you’re one.

2. Hiding your money/income from your spouse is an easy breeding ground for avoidable discomfort and incessant marital uproar.

I have said it again and again that any couple that can not be open in money matters will struggle to get along in virtually all other departments of their marriage.

3. Men and Women think differently especially the married ones.

So be wise and be conscious enough to learn something about men or women for a better marital life.
For example, most men are concise, succinct and unsuspecting in their thinking pattern whereas women are known for being very detailed and more sensitive in handling issues.

4. Anybody who does not respect your spouse but adores you is a hypocrite and a spousal parasite. Beware!

It is deceit for anyone to show respect for you while casting aspersions on your spouse. That one-sided respect is not real and not true at all.

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5. Marriages work best in togetherness and not in independence.

No marriage where the couple acts independently of each other will ever thrive in this life. The synonym of marriage is ‘Togetherness’. If you both live and act independently for whatever reason, you can not optimise your marriage.

6. Respect is earned in marriage, not commanded or demanded.

A respect that is commanded and demanded is not respect.
So respect your spouse and your spouse will not despise you.

7. Never discuss your spouse’s weaknesses and shortcomings with extended family members and friends; it often worsens the situation.

Some of them are just naturally happy to get such report and in due time they will use it against you and your marriage ( family).

8. Men, whomever or whatever your wife is sceptical about needs close watching; especially if your woman is a prayerful and objective wife.

Ninety per cent of the things I have done well and gotten right in life, business and ministry, are the ones that my wife has shown her support and backed me up.

9. You will always be as happy and restful as your spouse is.
In marriage, no ONE can be truly happy independent of his or her partner. Anyone that claims otherwise, is observing self-deceit.

10. If you are a woman who cherishes peace in the home- you can’t win the battle against your mother or sister-in-law, don’t even start it.

A wise woman does not draw a battle line with her in-law, especially her mother-in-law. It’s an easy way to open the windows of marriage for peace to fly out.

And if at all any battle is necessitated with your in-law, your husband is supposed to be at the front line of it, not you. Otherwise, your defeat is guaranteed.

11. Never let your spouse become so convinced that you prefer your family to his or hers. That is not marriage.

Your people are his people and her people are your people. Peaceful couples live and act as one on all marriage matters including the treatment of relations.

12. Never put luxury before essentials in your family pursuits and accomplishments.

For instance, you don’t amass a fleet of cars when you have not built a house. Buying expensive new dresses and shoes for friends’ parties when children school demands are still pending defeats marital common sense.

13. Always be willing to make a sacrifice for your spouse. This will bring about endearment.

Great couples sacrifice for each other and their children. That is the essence of true love.

14. Never allow your children to come between you and your spouse, or else…

It is part of what fuels marital conflicts between unsuspecting and carefree couples.

Most children are fond of this and are usually deliberate about it to have their way but couples too must be deliberate in checkmating it.

Thank you.

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