Men: 10 Signs To Watch Out For In A Lady That Will Frustrate You After Wedding

By Seyi Igunsabi.

It is inarguably true that some men who are having a bad time in marriage these days are more or less the architect of their woes in such unions.

Because most of them saw very disturbing and glaring anti-marriage traits in their wives before their wedding but unbelievably, they ignored it as if it was a small matter.

But after some time of trying to get a life in their marriage, things aren’t just working. And the more they longed for it, the farther it drifted away from them.

Below are some anti-marriage traits to watch out for in a woman before you say: “Yes I do”, to her.

1. She is Controlling.

This is observable even during courtship; she wants things done her way and in her time. And often than not anyone who objects to her stance even her fiancé falls out of favour with her. And this makes her a self-seeking individual. Besides, she tends to be violent; she uses threat and the weapon of withdrawal to pass across the fact that she is losing control and it’s not welcome to her.

2. She Is Eager To Involve Third Party In Marriage/Relationship Matters.

Don’t marry a lady who is quick to take your private discussions, deliberations or differences to the public hearing of her friends and relations. Such a lady will not respect you in marriage and she will not treasure your position as the head. Moreso, family decision making will always be a huge problem because she does not have a mind of her own. Ladies like these may be starved of objectivity in their mentality. And that is surely a minus to a marital relationship.

3. She is Occasionally Fond Of Her Ex.

To her, it is not a crime, it is just a mere expression of past feelings. She puts up this attitude that- the fact that you’re getting married to her is because her ‘ex’ lost the opportunity. However, she feels she could occasionally provide some succour for her ‘ex’ by exchanging feelings/chats with him occasionally. If you condone this before marriage, then you must be prepared for the concluding series in marriage. Many ladies particularly do this.

4. She Has No Respect Even For Her Parents And Elderly Ones In The Family.

A lady prospect who shouts at her parents and shuts down her elderly siblings will be rude to you undoubtedly in marriage. Hear me please: it is not a big deal for her to fane respect for you in courtship while she dishonours her parents and elders at home. Although if you, the man, is spiritual and sensitive, you will uncover the plastic honour she gives to you before you say- “Yes I Do”.

5. She is Materially Driven Instead Of Being Value Driven.

She has no time for delayed gratification. She doesn’t mind eating all her seeds now and forfeit a bountiful harvest tomorrow. She is usually envious of others who have what she wants (not what she needs). She likes to show off until she is blown off due to heavy debt and empty living (since she has no value to offer). She prefers parties and occasions to personal resource meetings and development programs. Watch it, if you are a man who places impact before pleasure.

6. A Lady That Nags.

Even the word of God in Prov. 25:24 already gave away such a woman. She is characterized by making complains about virtually everything. She is more vocal but less thoughtful. She is an ever-ready fault-finder. And quick to point out only the negative side of things and situations. But as for the positive and sunny side of such, she prefers to be mute. She is a very disturbing lady going by her irritating attitudes. She does not give her man a rest of mind until she has had her way.

7. She Lacks Self Control, Especially Over Her Emotional Pull Towards the Opposite Sex.

Like God’s word says in Prov. 25:28, she is loosed in her emotional build-up especially towards the opposite gender and this makes her vulnerable and an easy victim of opportunistic guys. This also means she has tendencies to be flirty. She is someone who loves pleasures more than commitment. And she is not likely to be spiritually minded by many standards. She is also prone to extramarital affairs even when she has been lawfully wedded to a man.

8. She Is Dogged With Respect To Unacceptable Notions And Traditions About Marriage.

She is opinionated and incorrigible. This is to say, she is not teachable. Marrying an opinionated person is perhaps one of the easiest ways to frustrate your marital success and progress. Because she’ll hardly be opened to new ideas and knowledge that could help a couple maximize their marriage and life generally. This is a person who will usually find it difficult to unlearn certain things she has learnt in the past that are not congruent with building robust and progressive marital relationships.

9. She is Self Seeking And Miserly In Nature.

Any lady in this category is usually a quick receiver but a bad giver. She is such that would hold on tight to what she has and will hardly let go even when necessity demands that she shares her possessions. Such a lady will not make a good family financial supporter even though she has the means.

As such, this makes her to be materialistic and pleasure-driven instead of being purpose and need driven.

10. She Is Tied To Her Mum Or Dad’s Apron.

I know quite some marriages that have gone down the drain as a result of this. My dear purpose-driven man, don’t marry any lady who is too dependent on her parents for everything including decision making. If you do, you will have a frustrating marriage, it’s not a prophecy, it’s an unequivocal fact. When you marry a dependent as a wife, it means all your family decisions and deliberations will have to go to the National Assembly of Your Parents –in law for approval or disapproval. And you know what that means, right? Your guess is as good as mine.

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