Bringing Out the Best in Your Wife - Marriage as God Intended

In an earlier post during the week, I discussed some things that married men should be doing to help their wives live life to the fullest while making the most of their marital union.

Below is the concluding part of the write-up. I believe that any man who does these things will not be ashamed of his wife at all. Please read on.

The Rest Of The Highlights:

7. Don’t befriend or be close to anyone who shows disregard for your wife.

Anyone who honors you but disrespects your wife is a suspect and a hypocrite; he or she probably has a hidden agenda. In my parlance (Yoruba—a tribe in Nigeria), it is said that: ‘Whatever touches the eye will affect the nose.’ This applies to husband and wife too. However, I do understand that there may be one or two important personalities in your life who do not give due regard to your wife as they would ordinarily do to you. Although such actions are blameworthy, they may not be intentional. For such persons, I suggest you manage them rather than discard or estrange yourself from them altogether. However, over time, you must cleverly make them realize that your wife deserves as much honor as they give to you.

8. As occasions demand, make such sacrifices for her and your children that would often come across to her as a surprise.

That is, once in a while, go beyond the usual family life sacrifices and responsibilities. When this happens between a couple who understand each other, it is capable of restoring confidence in your wife, thereby making her realize that the relationship is worth its salt after all.

This will, in turn, make her want to go the extra mile for you whenever the opportunity presents itself. In case you have not started practicing this love way yet, please begin as soon as possible. It makes marriage a fulfilling experience.

“Anyone who honours you but disrespects your wife is a suspect and a hypocrite.”

9. Be enthusiastic about supporting her dreams, visions and aspirations.

If she is a career person, ensure you show interest in the progress of her professional work and her personal relationships. Always be prepared to stand by her when she faces pressure at work. She needs to know that you’ve got her back when work challenges overwhelm her, and this must be done deliberately. Whatever her field of endeavor, you need to consciously support her to succeed in it. Sometimes she may require your input in strategizing for maximum output in her craft. You need to challenge her to reach for the next levels in her career or business.

10. Be an example of a spiritual person to her to a high degree.
If she sees in you a man who fears God and takes God’s counsel and worship very seriously, she would want to do her best not to offend or displease her Maker too. A wife can’t strive to please her Lord and not be at her best in relating to her husband, children, and outsiders. Intentionally expose her to insightful biblical teachers who teach the scriptures with a balanced and Spirit-filled perspective. Teach her to learn to appreciate and apply the spiritual principles and thoughts that have shaped your life, career, business, ministry, and so on.

11. Make a lifelong commitment to treat her as your partner and your own body.

The word ‘partner’ in life partner means ‘part-owner,’ so your wife is intrinsically a part-owner of your being and life. As such, you cannot afford to treat her any less or in a discomforting manner.

As the scriptures say in Ephesians chapter five, a man who cherishes his wife cherishes his life (himself). Also, you need to understand that loving her sufficiently and unconditionally is a favor you are doing for yourself. So treat her with care and empathy. Always try to empathize with her. That way, you will truly be able to love her as your very own body.

12. Do little things for her that will remain indelible in her memory for a long time.

Until you learn to do little things for your spouse, the truth is that you may be judged as one not doing anything worthwhile. Some men believe they are doing so much for their wives because they provide physical and material comforts for them and the family, yet they wonder why their marriage is still not working and why their wives are still unhappy, not knowing that there are little things they are not practicing (and have ignored) that appeal much more to the soul and innermost being of women generally.

Little things like saying thank you occasionally for a meal well prepared and enjoyed are important. Little things like appreciating her each time she supports and ensures that the family’s financial obligations are met in a timely manner matter as well. Helping out in the kitchen sometimes, driving her to the market (even if she can drive), taking her out for a surprise lunch, purchasing her favorite snacks, fruits, or dresses without prior discussions, stopping by her office to say ‘hello,’ gisting with her at home, and showing concern for her sexual fulfillment are some of the little things proactive men do to bring out the best in their spouses as women, wives, and mothers.

From the foregoing, there is no doubt that a man, as well as his wife, both have roles to play to make their union work successfully.

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