It is something bizzare that despite this age of information; with much teachings and seminars on marriage and relationship matters, many youths still marry on assumptions with clear eyes.
And one of those costly assumptions is using courtship time to prepare more for a wedding without the reality of the concept of marriage in view. The essence of courtship in marriage can not be over-emphasized. Courtship days should not be focused on the wedding but on marriage itself.

Truly speaking when you hear and see what goes on in marriages or homes after the wedding, it tells you clearly that many new and old couples only planned for the wedding, not the marriage journey itself. I have said it again and again, the courtship period is not a time to plan for a wedding but for marriage. Wise intending couples intentionally use their courtship time to do the most important thing- which is to understand one’s prospect. The courtship period is not a season to concern oneself much about wedding gowns or who should or shouldn’t be on the bridal train. Rather, it’s a time to understand whether the destiny of your intended wife or husband aligns with yours. And this has little or nothing to do with physical features or possessions.

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Also, it’s a time to admit that you would be able to live together for the rest of your life as one destiny and be able to still pursue your mutual and individual progress. Courtship is a premarital provision that enables you to spend time together while you try to establish true love and other parameters that aid the emergence of a workable marriage. Either you believe it or not, the purpose your courtship serves will determine the way your marriage goes.

How many people would have escaped fatal marital errors and wicked fantasies that are haunting them now in marriage, if only they allowed the purposes of Christian Courtship to play out its role while they were planning to get married? It is in courtship that you count the cost of marriage before you go into it with anybody. Luke 14:28-33.

So, dear friends, I admonish you as a counsellor and friend- concentrate most of your courtship days on life after the wedding instead of the wedding itself. Good understanding requires that you prepare much more for marriage than you do for your wedding day. Why? One does not last for more than a day- wedding, but the other is expected to last for a lifetime- marriage.

You can leave a wedding in the hands of wedding planners and event managers, under the supervision of trusted hands. But you must take your marriage into your hands by laying a lasting foundation for it with the chief cornerstone of UNDERSTANDING during the courtship period.

©️ MAGI

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