The danger of marrying unbelievers. - Marriage as God Intended

“And they said to them, “We cannot do this thing, to give our sister to one who is uncircumcised, for that would be a reproach to us.”
Gen. 34:14

Who are the uncircumcised? These are people who are not under the direct rule of God. They are people who are not part of the Covenant (of the blood of Jesus, in our time). Also, the uncircumcised are the unbelievers as seen in 2 Corinth. 6:14 & 15. And they can not be subjected to the core values of Christian living, mainly- Obedience to God, Holiness and Self-control.

It could be really regretful and reproaching for believers in Christ to enter into relationships with unbelievers that would lead to marriage. Marriage thrives best when two persons share the same values, ideology (about marriage as God intended) and convictions about how God wants them to relate as husband and wife. Like the scriptures says in Amos 3:3- “Can two walk together except they are agreed?”

Marriage relationships hardly thrive where individuals involved are not of the same convictions and beliefs. There are too many regretful stories of couples that buttress this fact. So it is advisable that Christian singles who want to truly enjoy peace and progress in their marital relationship stay within the boundaries that enhance such an experience.

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I have highlighted below one of the strong reasons why God’s children should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (in marriage).

2 Corinth. 6:14 & 15-

GOD COMMANDED IT:

“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?“

Since God commanded it expressly in His word, to do otherwise means one is making a bet with God. In other words, it tantamounts to one saying: ‘I will do it and nothing will happen.” The Almighty is the last Super-Being mortal men would want to dare for any reason at all. The truth is one can not claim to love someone so much and disobey God on the same ground. That is a grave disorderly attitude.

If the person you love makes you hate ‘God’ and disobey His word, you are not in love but lust. Any marital relationship you uphold that makes go against the principles of the kingdom of God can not stand; it will be full of headaches and heartaches. Shine your eyes and be wise; the consequences of marrying an unbeliever are too heavy to wink at as a believer in Christ.

Many couples are troubled and bitter in their marriage today simply because they winked at this command not to marry unbelievers. God knows better than us. He knows the end from the beginning and knows what works best for us since He made and redeemed us. The dangers of marrying unbelievers are too grieveous to overlook, hence, we were forbidden in the scriptures not to do it.

When it comes to marrying right, whatever God tells us to do is not an intention to punish us or make us miserable by discouraging us from loving whom we want. Remember, you don’t love whom you want, rather you are to love whom you need for a fulfilling marital relationship life. In my parlance, Yoruba, it is said that: “Let’s do it as it should be done and we will get the result we ought to get.

When God through Apostle Paul and even Moses, commanded His children that they should not intermarry with unbelievers, it is because He knows they would find it really challenging having a blissful home-cum-marriage if they marry such ones.

Marriage is supposed to give you leverage in life generally after the wedding (Eccl. 4:9-12), but marrying an unbeliever can jeopardise this and frustrate you in many ways. Someone may say but some people have gotten married to believers like them and they have no better story to tell. I strongly submit that, if any two true, sincere and knowledgeable (marriage principles) persons tie the knot, they must have a better marriage story to tell without any doubt.

Marrying an unbeliever or non-committed Christian threatens the destiny of a believer who wants to fulfil God’s plan for his or her life and marriage. So let’s beware of making small this righteous command of our Father. His plans (including marriage) are of GOOD and not of EVIL, to give us a future and a hope that we will be content with. However, this will not happen in isolation, without our integral corporation and obedience to destiny-cum-life enhancing instructions like this.

©️ MAGI (Seyi Igunsabi)

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