God’s voice validates your choice when it comes to enjoying marriage as God intended. Divine direction facilitates the right choices. Learn more from this well-thought-out article by Pastor Mrs. Biola Okeke.

Mrs Biola Okeke is the director of Haggai Zuriel Schools in Nigeria and a certified John Maxwell Leadership Speaker and Coach. She is also a seasoned marriage counsellor.

In this post, she revealed how she met her quintessential husband who is also a senior Pastor in RCCG, Lagos, Nigeria. The highlight of her story is that it is important for intending couples to let God speak to them before they say ‘YES I DO’ to their prospect.

I met my husband about 26 years ago during my youth service in Maiduguri Borno state at the Christian Corpers fellowship.
He was the President of the fellowship at the time.
I was a very vibrant Christian who loved the Lord and wants to do only what He tells me.
Before then, I was a ton boy …. although l am a girl. I am a very principled young lady who takes no nonsense from anyone.
I beat up boys who dare cross the line.
I am always in trousers and wear low cut hair; if you are not so close to me, you might mistake me for a boy.
I was known for that so much that you must be a very courageous person to be able to approach me and talk to me.

My mum was very scared at that time because she felt the way l was going l will not get anyone to marry me.
Fast forward …. after l finished my course in the university my dad took me to a salon and asked them to ‘Jerry curl’ my hair so l can look more like the girl that I am.
I didn’t know what exactly was going on on his mind then, but l knew they were a bit disturbed about the fact that I look like a boy and maybe that was the reason why boys were not asking me out.
Unknown to them, the few guys who have dared to approach me have their story to tell.

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I met Jesus when l was 17 years old and everything turned around for me. Praise God!
My attitude, lifestyle and views were all taken over by my Lord Jesus Christ and l became a new ‘man’.
I finished my first degree from the University of Ilorin and was posted to serve the nation at Maiduguri, North East, Nigeria, where l met this Ibo man who is now my hubby, Pastor Sabastine Okeke.

We knew without an iota of doubt that God wanted us to be together although we both had our struggles with it. Particularly from my side, l am a Yoruba girl and in my clan, no one has ever been married to an Igbo man ( A Southeastern man in Nigeria).
But because l have mastered the voice of God in different areas of my life “, it wasn’t difficult for me to know who was speaking to me.
The only thing that assured me about this was God’s voice.

I knew months ahead that he would be my husband before he finally came to propose to me.
So when he came, l said “Yes”.

We came back from our youth service and got married. The rest is history.
If you read Mills and Boon those days you will admit that most girls build huge castles in the air about their dream man. They want a tall, slim, handsome wth a pointed nose guy, I was not left out.
So Physically, I did not like his appearance at all, because he was always dressed like a herdsman.

Secondly, it was not difficult to know he’s not from a rich home, he even says it himself.
So many things physically disqualified him as my choice man except the ‘VOICE’. Do we have young ladies and guys who still believe God speaks especially on issues that affect life?
The place of the voice of God on the issue of marriage cannot be brushed aside. It could be dicey and terrible to do this. Perhaps more than anything else, your heart matters most in knowing God’s will … THE VOICE OF GOD. God reveals His will to us by His voice among other things. So if you are used to hearing God when He speaks to your heart, He can just tell you the person when you meet him or her, but after the voice, there should be confirmations, through His word concerning what He told you.
It is disturbing that nowadays youths don’t believe they can hear God’s voice on a matter like marriage. This sacred journey is more than Love.
Love is not enough!

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God’s voice validates your choice. Marriage is a journey and you have only seen the book cover, you have no clue what is written in chapter 1 or chapter 5.
You need God’s voice because the journey is a lifelong journey, it’s an institution God Himself created and He alone has the manual.
It’s exactly 23 years I walked down the aisle to the altar to say, YES, I DO.
Trust me, we have been through a lot together and the journey has been worth the while.
We have had the Ups and the downs, the highs and the low moments.
Struggles in several areas have been real, we have had to go through certain storms but guess what, instead of pulling us apart, it has drawn us closer to each other.
There’s no fear in Love, perfect love casts out fear. I have been married to my best friend, no protocols while we are together, no formality, no barriers.

What have l learnt these few years, one critical lesson l learnt is that you must allow your foundation to be right.
You want it God’s way, do it God’s way; never compromise.
Marry someone who loves God and is a true child of God. Someone that has the fear of God. We may not be a perfect couple but we get better day in and day out till we reach the pinnacle God plans for us.
Allow the fruit of the Spirit in your life and your relationship.
Ensure you are heading in the same direction. This is sacrosanct.
Have a vision for your home.
Put God first in everything and serve God together.
Respect and honour each other.
Be open to each other, no secrets.

Don’t marry for the the wrong reasons like money, money may not always be there every time.
If you do it God’s way, you will get God’s kind of result.

Story by Pastor (Mrs) Biola Okeke.

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