Marrying an angry person - Marriage as God Intended

Marrying an extremely angry person may turn out to be one of the worst decisions you have made in life. Let them deal with their anger first before marriage.

DO NOT MARRY ANYONE WITH SYMPTOMS OF UNCONTROLLABLE ANGER.
Are you with me?
Such individuals usually constitute a serious potential threat to the lives, dreams, and progress of their spouses; either in the short run or long run.

I have seen and read about people who hurt their partners to death due to uncontrollable anger.
Do you know as well that some people have succeeded in wrecking their partner’s life dreams and mind-blowing opportunities before their very eyes on the premise of wild anger mode? Countless individuals have lost their lives and had their destinies (and dreams) cut off suddenly because of the menace of a wild angry partner.

What of children who have become orphaned, fatherless, and motherless, for the same reason? These children are left with emotional disruptions and pains unexpectedly early in life because their parents killed each other out of outbursts of anger.

Those who can not bring their anger under control can not maximize any relationship at all, talk more of marriage. Even the scriptures warn against being friends with furious people, then you want to live with such a fellow for the rest of your life. Wow!

Proverbs 22:24
“Make no friendship with an angry man,
And with a furious man DO NOT GO,”

Prevention is better than cure.
Is anyone with uncontrollable anger showing interest in you?
Fine, but let them deal with their anger first before you enter into the marriage deal with them. It is better to remain single than get married to a wild beast who has no regard for even human life in an angry mood.

CHECK THIS, How to Identify a Domineering Person Before You Marry Him or Her.

All men get angry even our Maker but He also warns against being extremely angry when you are relating with people.

Colossians 3:8
“But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, WRATH, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.”

Wrath is one word for violent and reckless anger.

People who find it difficult to hold back when annoyed have high-level tendencies of unforgiveness. This is also a big minus to building effective and robust marital relationships.

Proverbs 27:4
WRATH is cruel and anger a torrent, But who is able to stand before jealousy?

Again the scriptures pointed out that wrath is cruel and it was linked with jealousy. Be wary of anyone who shows extreme & consistent jealousy towards others on your account in a relationship. You don’t peak such a relationship in a marriage. That’s a sign of a domineering & potentially violent partner. Jealousy has marred many relationships.

Anyone who wants to get along well with people and maximize relationships or any enviable pursuit must be willing to sacrifice something and change certain habits if need be. Often, it’s called self-control or self-discipline. And it applies to anything in life including marriage and relationships.
You can’t eat your cake and have it.

Anger is a temperament and we all get angry but the point is don’t use your temperament to destroy and demean others for your self-gratification.
Anger like any other temperament or drive can be controlled especially if you are born again and Spirit-filled. We call it Spirit-controlled temperaments.

So if anyone feels he must hold on to injurious temperaments to the detriment of others then he should be prepared to be isolated and enjoy his one-man or one-woman world of uncontrollable anger and other ill-temperaments.

For instance, would you support that ladies, believer or unbeliever, go about sleeping with men like dogs because their sexual drive is occasionally aroused? Of course not. We all have our sexual drive aroused, single and married (for those who are not our spouses) but should we now respond to it by indulging in sexual immorality? Of course, not.

Instead we control them by God’s grace and by sheer determination to please God besides maintaining a sane and chaste affair with our spouses or prospect. Isn’t it?

Yes, I advocate that anyone having anger problems can pray about it.
But while prayer goes on, let such a person, examine himself and admit he needs a change of character in this regard and be determined to employ improvement measures, both spiritually and emotionally.

If we want to change we can. Extreme anger can be controlled if we want it taken care of as God’s children.
In a country like Nigeria, West Africa it is almost suicidal for a civilian to slap a soldier man. I am sure no matter how much a soldier offends a man who easily shows outbursts of anger against other people, he will control himself before a soldier and will never attempt to slap him as a reactive response.

Therefore, I conclude that anyone’s anger can be controlled if they want it brought under their power, by the grace of God and a commitment to treat others better.

Seyi Igunsabi-Perez
(Family Life Practitioner, Relationship Manager, Marriage Counsellor & Seminar Facilitator)

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