The habits that ruin marriages. - Marriage as God Intended

The habits that ruin marriages must be checked urgently among couples, otherwise the union will fizzle out soon or later.

Severally, I have reiterated that- nothing good just works. Every good thing that we see working has somebody behind it. Making marriage work is work itself. No one inherits a good marriage; nor does any marriage work by chance.

However, attitudes and dispositions contribute largely to the making or breaking of all marital relationships. Like their male counterparts, many married women are found with one or more of these habits.

WOMEN

1. Nagging:

Using abusive words, fighting your husband or being a nag has never helped any woman. It only helps in pushing the man out of the house the more. Surprisingly, I have met women who brag about their nagging lifestyle. It is bad, foolish and childish. Note: nagging is a very bad habit and it’s your choice to nag or keep quiet. Nagging doesn’t solve any problem rather it complicates and heightens the level of the matter.

2. Fighting In-Laws:

There is no way you can separate your husband from his parents by fighting them. Don’t be surprised if your husband does not support you when you fight his family. You can never separate them.

If there would be any battle at all, your husband must be in the front of it, you should fight from behind. That is the wisdom for winning battles against in-laws.

3. Committing Their Husbands Into The Hands Of A Housemaid:

Many women have lost their homes because they have allowed their maids to be responsible for the welfare of their husbands. You have simply signed that marriage off. Wise women know that maids are for support and nothing more. And their support services are supposed to be under the strict supervision of the woman of the house.

4. Reporting Their Husbands:

Some women are fond of reporting their husbands to their friends, family, neighbours, whenever their expectations are not met by their husbands. You can never get the right result by making a wrong move.

5. Disrespecting Their Husbands:

Men greatly value their ego and will easily tilt towards any woman. If you are fond of disrespecting your husband because you are angry with him, you will be the number one enemy of your marriage. The Bible commands you to respect your husband. (Ephesians 5:33).

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6. Sexual Denial:

Most wives use sex as a weapon to fight their husbands. If you deny him at home, some other women will offer it to him on a platter of gold. Be wise; don’t lose your marriage to foolishness. Satisfy your husband sexually as much as possible.

MEN:

Six things are common to all baby husbands which shows the level of their wisdom and exposure. Men must use this as a checklist and stop being childish.

1. Food Rejection:

Many men are fond of this foolish and immature habit. Whenever they are angry with their wives, they show their displeasure by not eating the food their wives prepare. You are the owner of the food and the food was prepared in your house. Yet, you reject it. This is foolishness of the highest order.

2. Keeping Malice:

Keeping malice with your wife whenever you are angry with her is another childish behaviour. There are situations when some men turn deaf ears to their wives’ move for reconciliation. If there is a misunderstanding, settle it with your wife, she is part and parcel of you.

3. Constant Outbursts Of Anger:

Unchecked anger which makes you call your wife all sorts of names and say unprofitable things like threats of divorce, separation, beating, is not an attribute of a real man.

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4. Not Supporting Their Wives At Home:

More than 80 percent of African men do not raise a finger at home to do any house chores, care for the baby, help the children with their home work, attend Parent Teachers Association (PTA) meeting or carry the baby when crying. In fact, an average man will always say to his wife, “Come and carry your baby”, whenever the baby cries. Irrespective of what the woman is doing, she must abandon it to cater for the baby, while the man keeps himself busy watching television and also reminding the woman to bring his food.

When asked the reason for such negligence, he is likely going to say one or more of the following:
“I am the head of this family”.
“My father never did it for a woman”.
“In our culture, men don’t do anything at home”.
“My wife will begin to take me for granted if I help her at home”.
“She will disrespect me if I do”.
“It is not manly to do that.”
“I make the money, let her do the cooking”.
“I am too busy”.
“I don’t know how to cook”.
“What will the neighbours say when they see me doing something for her, etc”.

Men, wake up. Be a real man, support your wife at home. Put your biceps and triceps to use. Don’t turn your wife into a slave. It is childish to do so.

5. Reporting Their Wives:

It is inappropriate to report your wife to your friends, colleagues, neighbours, family members, whenever there is a misunderstanding. You should be mature enough to handle your family matters. A real man respects his wife and will seek to settle their disputes quickly. He doesn’t shout at the woman. People you are reporting to may even have bigger problems in their hands to deal with.

You are only permitted to seek counsel from your pastor or marriage counselor on issues that concern your home.

6. Wife Battering: One of the most foolish things a man can do is to beat a woman he claims to love and promised to protect. Any man who beats his wife is a beast. Grow up and give your lovely wife peace of mind.

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