The joy and beauty of getting married is often accessible only when we choose to stay married despite some necessitated marital challenges and expected conjugal commitments. It’s so important to understand that getting married is one thing, staying married is another thing entirely.

Little wonder many young and average age couples are finding it quite tasking to remain committed to their marriage vows whenever they are faced with the normal demands and challenges of marital life.

From all indications it is clear that so many singles and young adults get married for wrong reasons; ranging from age factor, desire for mere emotional pleasures, response to pressures from peers and parents, just to mention a few. But unknown to them that anyone who gets married for wrong reasons will certainly lack the capacity to stay married for the right reasons.

Getting married may not compulsorily depend on your capacity building but it is INEVITABLE to stay married. You know what, various people and organisations (E.g event planners, caterers) may assist to ensure your wedding succeeds; but when the wedding beats and feasts are over then the marriage journey begins and your capacity buildng shall be put to test.

Below are some nuggets from my seminar on this subject.

 

1. God is pleased to see us get married that’s why He instituted marriage. However, He is much more interested in seeing us stay married. Hence, He hates divorce. Malachi 2:16.

2. A lot of people especially in our time, want to get married but they would not mind quitting the marriage for just any reason. This is not right in the sight of God neither is it the will of God for marriage especially among true believers who have faith in the words of the scriptures.

3. The real beauty and joy of getting married is usually accessed and known in staying married.

4. If you can not stay married in spite of expected distractions & necessitated challenges in the marital journey then you weren’t beautiful enough to get married in the first place.

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5. It will always pay off to stay married especially as Christian couples no matter what comes our way with exception to domestic violence.

6. Staying married after you have gotten married is a decision and not an option, at least as a well meaning and purpose driven individual. This gives your mind the most needed energy to hold on and carry on.

7. Biblically, and by divine ordinance of marriage, those who get married are supposed to stay married that is why even Jesus said : “ What God has joined together, let no man( no in law, friend, challenges and wrong counsels) put asunder.”

8. It is better not to marry than to get married without a commitment to stay married despite all odds.Matt. 19:10.

9. Until everyone planning to get married come to accept the truth that as a married person you have no right to break up a marital vow for just any reason, staying married for couples (Christian and Non-Christian) will continue to be a very tall order and a thing to compromise easily.

10. Getting married could be fun but staying married is first of all real work, then with some fun to spice it up. Learn the order.

11. Respect for people that matter in your spouse’s life must be convincing and clear before and after wedding.

12. Talking about ‘Tolerance‘ – if you can not take shit from your partner once in a while, it is better not to consider marriage because marriage is place of shits.

13. In fact I believe the best of couples are those who have become used to tolerating some shits from their lovely partners as occasion presents.

14. Forgiveness: is a vital and compulsory fruit for staying married. You must be prepared to bite it as many times as possible till death do you part.

15. To stay married, you must be prepared to let go somethings that could be detrimental to your marital success like habits, friendships, relationships, juicy job/business offers and the like- for the sake of your spouse’s happiness and peace. This is inevitable if you truly want your marriage to be a haven of peace and joy.

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16. When you learn to resolve things between each other at all cost, it makes both of understand each other better and minimizes marital conflicts. Also,  it helps to prevent negative or malicious interference from friends and relations (third party).

17. The Issue of Productivity of both parties to a marriage must not be compromised. Please this is very vital in building a lasting marital relationships. Remember money answereth all things. Lack of money is also the root of most frustrations.

18. Avoid hate speeches by all means. Don’t even allow it flow through your mind no matter the challenge you’re faced with in marriage. Watch your word, His grace is sufficient. Prov. 15:1 & 2.

19. Nobody who fears God and understands God plan for marriage should break up a marital vow for just any reason.

20. Those who are not prepared to pay the price of staying married need not get married by any chance or under pressure if they don’t want the trouble that will diminish their existence and significance in life.

21. The beauty of any marriage is not really reflected by the wealth or fame of the couple, the expensive cars they ride or the wearing of latest fashions but it’s in staying married with or without all these.

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