This year can be an improvement over yesteryears especially last year, 2022, in terms of your marital life experiences if you are ready to do some things differently. In this post, I have highlighted some of the golden rules for couples to follow in 2023, especially those that would love to have a more pleasant marriage and family life. Now get on the train with me, the train of a more fulfilling and progressive marital relationship with your spouse in 2023.

1. Don’t be cruel to your spouse.

Let your actions, reactions and attitudes not be equated to cruelty against your partner. Doing this makes you harm yourself in an unsuspecting way.

2. Don’t ignore your spouse’s parents and relations nor think less of their welfare this year.

Too many married people are guilty of this. Check on them and show sincere concern for their well-being, find out how they are doing, it has a way of softening your spouse’s heart for you.

3. Do not speak deceitful words to your spouse this year.

Whether it concerns you personally or your family life issues; don’t deceive your partner. Deceiving your promotes a filthy atmosphere in your home and marriage. Speak the truth at all costs. It is better to speak the truth at all costs than to lie at any cost. Truthfulness though demanding at times has a way of purifying your heart, marriage and family life at large. Truthfulness promotes good health in anything.

4. Do not repay evil for evil against your spouse.

Aah aah- in marriage? Rather this year beginning today learn to overcome ‘evil’ with good concerning your spouse. It increases your level of kindness and the degree of kindness you’ll attract as well in the new year, as a person and a family.

5. Believe in your spouse like never before regardless of their disappointing attitudes or failed projects in the past years.

Believe in their dreams, goals, visions, and positive passions. Encourage him or her to give another try at their long-time goals and dreams. Give your spouse a second chance and you’ll be glad you did.

6. Spring pleasant surprises at your spouse this year.

Such moves refresh your spouse’s love for you. When you are trying to download a file and it hangs, one of the things you do is to refresh it and before you know the file comes down. That is what pleasant surprises do one’s spouse. It refreshes and resets their love for you.

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7. Be prepared to go the extra mile for your spouse more than you’d do for anyone else this year.

It assures them of their special place in your heart and life. Unfortunately, some people go the extra for others but they are always unwilling to do same for their spouse.

8. Be intentional about building every good thing with your spouse this year.

From your marriage to your career, business, family finance, ministry, children, project, education, investment etc. Don’t go solo. Two are better than one.

9. Discuss how you would improve your sexual intimacy and fulfillment this year.

Talk about it and have a plan to follow. A lot of people are suffering and dying in silence when it comes to sexual intimacy. This is not marriage as God intended. Sex is for pleasure among other things. And it must be given and received unconditionally.

10. Pray for your spouse with all your heart from time to time and ask God to send help to them in 2023.

Listen to me and listen well, you’re the best and the most anointed person that should pray for your spouse, not your Pastor, G.O, Bishop or Prophet. I won’t say more than this. Let him that has an ear hear.

11. Do not insult your spouse on any ground this year; rather correct them without being mean as the occasion demands.

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I know some of our partners will get us angry in the year, but don’t resort to insulting them. You should be able to correct your spouse without embarrassing him or her in the process.

12. Intentionally show concern for the health and spiritual well-being of your spouse.

Don’t allow carelessness in this regard to take the better of them. Encourage them to exercise, eat healthily and take their routine drugs if they are on any. My wife has been very helpful in this regard. At least I have stopped taking minerals almost every day.

13. Encourage them on the new dreams and projects they are taking up this year; this alone could get the project halfway (mentally) before it starts.

Remember you should be the greatest encourager of your spouse on earth. If you don’t believe in your spouse who else should believe in them?

14. Don’t put anybody before your spouse or prioritize anyone’s interest above that of your spouse and family.

Some of those who did otherwise have not only lost their peace, their marriages have failed and their homes have been broken.

15. Avoid being selfish towards your spouse henceforth.

No marriage can stand selfishness or self-serving attitudes. Selfish people can not succeed in marriage. Mutuality, not individuality is what marriage is all about. That is why two become one.

16. Ensure an atmosphere of peace with your spouse every day.

Don’t let any misunderstanding or quarrel last more than 24hrs no matter how intense before you settle it between yourselves. Peace naturally fosters progress and good development. Give peace a chance. It is your greatest asset in a marriage.

17. This year, let your spouse be happy coming back home to meet you every day.

Yes, you can do it. For almost 17yrs, I have looked forward to meeting my wife at home virtually every day even under tense situations. Do not keep them away among wolves they call friends and family members or even colleagues because of your monstrous and nagging attitudes in the home. This is particularly for women and wives. Prov. 14:1.

18. Discuss issues rather than suck all the time when issues come up as they would occasionally.

Couples who don’t talk get stuck in many regrettable ways. Wars between nations have ended on the table of discussion. Work on your communication.

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19. Consciously take up a task or do something that will step up your spouse’s joy and happiness in a significant way this year.

For example, towards the end of 2022, my wife decided to learn how to make a particular fruit drink because she saw how much I loved the drink. She did it for me and I fell in love with her afresh. Before she started making it I used to buy from a neighbour.

20. Be prepared to go the extra mile to seriously reduce actions, attitudes and dispositions that upset your spouse.

Believe me, this will make your relationship robust but it will take some sacrifice and self-discipline.

21. Consciously have fun with your spouse this year more than ever before.

Sit down together, and chat face to face, not via WhatsApp or using pen and paper. Cracks jokes from anything possible, tap each other’s body, especially your sexually sensitive parts.

22. Do not pass your spouse through the rigour and trauma of them concluding that you are into extramarital affairs.

Be grateful to God for the one who is your partner and do your best to enjoy your marriage with him or her. Don’t create a crack in the wall of your marriage through this unhealthy and ungodly lifestyle.

23. Don’t compare your spouse with another person’s spouse.

Celebrate your spouse. No two marriages are the same or can be the same. Give compliments about your spouse’s strengths occasionally. And be intentional about complementing his or her weak points rather than find fault with them.

Seyi Igunsabi-Perez
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