The importance of fulfilling and regular sex in nurturing good and healthy marriages cannot be overemphasized. Sexual intimacy is a key to marital sanity.

The role of sex in a marriage covenant is so strong, and it was intentionally ordained by God. Sex, though marginal in terms of what makes or mars a marriage is still intrinsically vital to the health and sustainability of every conjugal union.

Sex is another idea of God meant to solidify marriage covenants and to also keep them very effective. Sex is more than just fun in a marriage. Truly, there is a fun side to it, talking about how two sexual partners (of course, a husband and a wife) enjoy sexual pleasure and foreplay; yet it goes beyond this essentially.

Sex is the highest physical binding force between two people in this world. But it is reserved for only married folks by the originator’s design for an erratic union such as this. Like all other covenants, sex is the seal, symbol, and strength of a marriage blood covenant. It is vital to note that the covenant nature of sex in marriage is what makes its frequent involvement sacrosanct. Covenants, either good or evil remain active and relevant to the parties as long as the terms are renewed at the set time. And virtually all covenants have a renewable nature. I understood that the terms that support the renewal of covenants are as strong as the initial covenant vows themselves.

“A good and regular sex is not just for the fun or pleasure therein, it is a covenant renewal act that comes with immense spiritual, natural and emotional benefits.”

Covenants are completely different from contracts. Covenants are delicate, deeper and more demanding than mere contracts. For example, covenants are more spiritual and emotional whereas contracts are more physical and technical. It is, for this reason, that covenant partners in all forms of covenant pay dearly for not keeping to the terms of the covenant. And often than not, terms of the covenant are periodic and time-bound.

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To the best of my knowledge, I know sex is perhaps the only platform for the renewal of the marriage covenant among couples as established by God. Provisions of comfort for the family and good schools for the children does not suffice. Marriage covenant can not be renewed by the number of cars in your family garage or a wardrobe full of clothes. All these are good but they are not good enough to replace good and regular sex- the medium for the renewal of marriage covenant between a man and a woman.

From numerous counselling sessions I have had, it is obvious that quite many couples take frequent sex for granted in their conjugal relationship. But that is not marriage and sex life as God intended married people. Sex is that part of a marriage covenant that must be attended to with a purposeful heart because of the role it plays in the covenant (being the renewal platform). There is no covenant of any kind that remains valid and strong without some renewal ritual rites, and the marriage covenant is not excused.

“I know sex is perhaps the only platform for the renewal of the marriage covenant among couples as established by God.”

So when couples use abstinence from sex as a punitive tool or a bait towards their spouse, they are missing out a great deal in this particular covenant, unknown to them. The covenant role of sex in a marriage is too strong for any couple to think or behave as if sex is not a big deal in the union.
Good and regular sex in a marital relationship is not supposed to be negotiated for anything, not even for intense spousal misunderstandings or fatigue.

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But only wise and knowledgeable couples understand this intrinsic role of sex in the institution of marriage as God intended.

Perhaps that is why God, through the Apostle Paul, made it abundantly clear that couples should not deprive or deny each other of sex for just any funny reason. “Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. DO NOT DEPRIVE ONE ANOTHER EXCEPT WITH CONSENT FOR A TIME, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinth. 7;2-5.

All the time when people renew evil (occulitc) and other similar human covenants through a prescribed medium, they don’t see with physical eyes what goes in the spirit realm yet they believe in what they do at that instance. They believe that spirits come to attend to them after such spirits have been provoked or beckoned on by the sacrifice or covenant practice. What happens in marriage covenant when couples engage sex is no different.

Going by the nature of covenants, it is normal to say when legally married couples have sex some spirits are invoked in the marriage ambience for the good and prosperity of the union. And as much as this is done, these spirits are present to assist a couple do well coupled with the engagement of other principles of marriage success. I believe from experience that regular sexual intercourse invokes the spirits of oneness, peace, progress, empathy, goodness, love, kindness, sacrifice, commitment and so on.

“Virtually all the troubled couples I have counselled due to marital conflicts have the history of irregular and scarcity of sex in their union.”

Have you wondered why the word of God encourged couples to indulge in much foreplay which leads to sexual activity? “As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And ALWAYS be enraptured with her love.” (Prov. 5:19). The word of God further specified that Christian couples are only allowed to take a SHORT BREAK  from sexual intercourse ONLY on the ground of spiritual devotion to prayer and fasting. And they must both agree on it. “Do not deprive one another except with CONSENT  FOR A TIME, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinth. 5:7.

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Virtually all the troubled couples I have counselled due to marital conflicts have the history of irregular and scarcity of sex in their union. Some stay as long as three to six months without sexual intercourse. This is dangerous to the marriage covenant and its efficacy. Unfortunately, many couples don’t take recognisance of this anti-marriage attitude which has cost majority a sound and good marriage. In some instances, this poor attitude towards this sexual covenant practice has even hampered some couples from leading a good life and fulfilling their destiny.

“Besides, according to the findings of medical practitioners, psychologists and sex therapists, there are other positive functions that consistent sexual activity serves in the bodies and minds of couples.”

Regular copulation between a couple is health and strength to their marriage and home; because it is the main means for renewing the marriage blood covenant. And of course, this frequent sexual and renewal activity tends to reactivate and invigorate the marital relationship in a way that is required to start a healthy marriage and family life.

In conclusion, for clarity, I suggest every couple that wants to benefit from the supernatural and natural effect of the glory of sex in the marriage should engage in sexual intercourse at least ONCE every ten days. Once they live together in the same town (house) and there is no ongoing ‘dry’ fasting and prayer, good and enjoyable sex should happen at least once in every seven to ten days.

For a couple who have more time and are self-employed, the frequency could be higher with them. Anything short of this may impact negatively on the health status of a couple and their home.

Remember, good and regular sex is not just for the fun or pleasure therein, it is a covenant renewal act that comes with immense spiritual, natural and emotional benefits. And these gains translate into many other good things in a couple’s life. Besides, according to the findings of medical practitioners, psychologists and sex therapists, there are other positive functions that consistent sexual activity serves in the bodies and minds of couples.

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