Knowing God’s will in marriage - Marriage as God Intended

It is unfortunate and grossly misleading that singles of this generation now assume that there is nothing called God’s will in marriage like it used to be popularly taught even ten to fifteen years ago.

So what they do is resort to casual friendship and “dating’ for as long as they can go. Thereafter, when they feel that they seem to be getting along well with their prospects, they conclude that it is the will of God for them to get married. Some others go as far as visiting dating sites, and they start to play the lottery of marital partners. But I make bold to say that many have regretted getting married on this premise.
I call it the easy way out, or the lazy mind approach. And it hardly ends well. The fact remains that you can not maximise destiny and your marriage by trying to outsmart God that way.

The truth is, if it’s not God, then it is not good for you, no matter how promising it may appear to be in the first place. Only God knows the end from the beginning. So He knows who will perfectly partner with you in the pursuit of the fulfilment of your destiny in grand style. If you are too lazy to seek God to know His perfect will in marriage, then prepare to work harder to keep the marriage working.
Because even when God’s choice is known, some hard work is still necessary to keep it going. But keep in mind that no man will succeed solely through strength.

You may do things that subvert or substitute for knowing God’s will. But you can not do anything to avert the consequences of missing God’s will. Why?
Choices, either divine or carnal, come with their consequences. It is a packaged deal. Moreover, once you make your choice, your choice starts making you. For this singular but deciding reason, knowing God’s will in marriage must not be toyed with.

So you may dodge the responsibility of knowing God’s will, but you will never be able to dodge the consequences of missing God’s will in marriage. So when I see singles fiddling with this decision, I know it’s because they don’t understand the gravity of what they are involved in. Many glorious destinies and bright stars have been truncated and dumped in the waste bin of life because they took with levity the knowledge of God’s will in marriage.

The wife of a popular tele-evangelist in Nigeria, West Africa, Evangelist Gloria Bamiloye once said in a film that showcased the danger of choosing by sight: “Who you marry often determines (even) where you will spend eternity.”
So choosing a marriage partner is a lifetime project that must be started on a proper spiritual and sane foundation. And the best composition of your marital foundation is God’s will in the matter.

If it is God it will be good no matter what you face in the journey because pays for what He orders. And helps those He leads. However, if it is not clearly God, then it’ll most likely be a regrettable choice either in the short run or in the long run, it does not matter how glamorous you both started.
Wise singles don’t start a marital union where God is not the initiator or connecting link.