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Masturbation is hellish and self-destructive to all its victims, so be wary of this self-help, but debasing, desecrating, and immoral practice.
To say masturbation is hellish is not to scare its victims nor an exaggerated description of this immoral and despicable act.
Stay Clear from it.
Let me begin by saying that sexuality is an integral part of our existence as humans. That’s how God made it, and we cannot do anything to change it. Regardless of our religious inclinations and biases, sexual feelings are universal and remain intact, just like our breath and heartbeat. These things do not change as long as we are human.
Please understand that Christianity does not frown upon sexuality, nor does it teach people to do so. Our sexual urges are as much a drive as hunger, which we are required to satisfy from time to time. That we have to eat to quell hunger pangs, however, does not mean that we can swallow just anything, like paper or sand. In the same vein, there is more to life than merely satisfying our sexual urges in whatever way we deem fit. Our primary purpose is to satisfy God rather than indulge in sexual escapades in an inappropriate manner.
Joseph understood this quite well, and it enhanced the fulfillment of his destiny while he was in Egypt. Samson, on the other hand, took this for granted and made a shipwreck of his earthly assignment. Amnon, also the firstborn child of the renowned King David, lost control over his sexuality and paid with his life in the end. Similarly, many young people and church folks have found themselves in this kind of quagmire because they lack the understanding of how to control their sexuality. Unfortunately, many have veered off their destiny path for a beggarly life.
One of those unsavoury sexual behaviours that is making the rounds and setting back many young people today is Masturbation. To say masturbation is hellish and desecrating means it is a horrible, demonic, despicable and an abominable thing in the sight of God. Without prejudice to free moral persons and thinkers, anyone who masturbates offends the Supreme Being we call God who superintends creation and everything in it including you.
It is sad to note that this generation, like past ones has tried in their wits to ‘legalise’ the abominable act of masturbation, when God clearly frowns at it. It is clearly an act that desecrates our bodies as the temple of God.
What is Masturbation?
Masturbation is the act of stimulating one’s genitals with one’s hand or an object to derive sexual pleasure. ‘One’s hand or object’ suggests a lot. It basically means personally doing things with one’s body (private parts) that lead to the arousal of sexual pleasure or fulfillment. Additionally, it is a self-help practice of deriving sexual pleasure and reaching orgasm by fondling or arousing one’s genitals (a.k.a. private parts). For women, they use their hands on their clitoris and/or breasts to intentionally achieve this. Some use sex toys on their vagina to carry out this act.
While the guys, more often than not, use pornography and sexually explicit magazines/nude pictures of ladies to peak in this immoral pleasure, all these are unnatural uses of sexual organs that irritate God. He frowns upon them and punishes victims severely. Read Rom. 1:24-28. Masturbation is a first-class vile passion. It is a shortcut to deriving sexual pleasure that has cut short many people’s glorious destinies, sanity, marital fulfillment, and life accomplishments. Warn your children against it and flee from it yourself. Interestingly, all the pleasure and fun that men and women, single and married, seek from this despicable act are all available and abound in marriage as God intended.
But the devil in his usual style to set men against their creator will always want unguided minds to explore this ungodly and destructive act of self-serving pleasure. On the other hand, I am also mindful of the fact that some married people settle for masturbation because their spouses starve them of sexual pleasures for a very long period or due to sudden impotency. This could really torturing. Yet that is not excusable before God. It is like stealing to pay your children school fees for years. Does it make your act of stealing right? Nonetheless, through proper counseling and prayers this can be overcome.
Masturbation also covers the use of sex toys and dolls by men and women to arouse erotic feelings thereby deriving sexual fulfilment from it. Now, all these are outrightly condemnable acts that many have come to embrace in every day life; yet they remain wrong and sinful in the sight of the creator. This is because they go against God’s provision as touching how our genitals are to be engaged.
The interesting thing is all what people do during masturbation like fingering, pennis rubbing, fondling of breast, clitoris stroking and the like are good and fantastic sexual activities;it is just that it is not right for the individual to administer these sexual acts on oneself. That is what is called masturbation—when you stimulate yourself sexually just so you can derive pleasure.
The book of First Corinthians, chapter seven, actually makes it clear that a man’s body belongs to his wife and the wife’s body belongs to her husband. That suggests a right to foreplay and sexual intercourse between a couple. Therefore, there is nothing wrong with those components of foreplay themselves. However, when an individual, especially an unmarried person, indulges in such acts, it goes against the natural use as God intended when He established the first marriage through Adam and Eve.
The complete text is actually Rom. 1:22-32. But I want to pick out verses 24, 26, 27 & 28.
24- “Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, TO DISHONOUR THEIR BODIES among themselves, 26- “For this reason God gave them up to VILE PASSIONS. For EVEN THEIR WOMEN EXCHANGED THE NATURAL USE for what is AGAINST NATURE.” 27- “Likewise also THE MEN, LEAVING THE NATURAL USE OF THE WOMAN, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.” 28- And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a DEBASED MIND, TO DO THOSE THINGS WHICH ARE NOT FITTING;
According to the above biblical submissions, masturbation and use of sex toys are all manifestations of VILE PASSION (morally condemnable).
With reference to V. 26–we can safely say that the use of sex toys is exchanging the natural use for what is against nature. For example, the penis as God made it, is the natural use for a woman’s vagina and vice versa. NOT sex toys. That is why a vibrator or a dildo (fabricated penis) can never impregnate a woman, because that was never the thing God made as natural use for vagina. The idea of sex toys is as a result of reprobate/debased/immoral/ungodly thinking.
And the bible says in v. 28, they use it to do things that are not FITTING, but to them they have their own reasons to use ot even when it is not God’s way for mankind.
Looking at verse 26 & 27, you will see that homosexuality, lesbianism and use of sex toys are unnatural according to God’s creation but people now engage in all these as a way of expressing their right and freedom but out of lustful (vile) passion. However, any expression of freedom that makes a man pitch himself against God and His word still makes him live in bondage to satan. And as the scripture also said- JUDGEMENT awaits them now and in eternity regardless of their reason for indulging in such debased acts. Rom. 1:32; Heb. 13:4. Any mature person who desires sex and all the foreplays that go with it is advised to get married. This is the natural thing to do. But if you are afraid of the responsibilities and commitment that come with marriage, and the desire for marriage is not a welcome idea, then do this— by all means, avoid sex. God made sex and its pleasures for marriage ONLY.
If you also look at our society, you will observe other unnatural uses that mankind has naturalized. For example, the use of human blood for money rituals is real in our world today, but is that how God intends for us to get rich? Of course, not. While unbelievers may masturbate without thinking twice because they are already under Satan’s control and bondage, when believers indulge in it, they too become subjected to Satan’s bondage.
From the Foregoing masturbation is indeed a hellish (horrible) and desecrating sexual act which is controlled by sexually immoral demons. So it’s high time you stopped it as a child of God who cherishes the peace and the blessings of a loving Father.
Please be informed that there will be a follow up article on this matter of the contaminating nature of the act of masturbation. In the sequel I will talk about the destructive consequences of masturbation.
And I pray for everyone reading this who is still under the hold of the evil power of masturbation- BE FREE in Jesus name.
Thank you for reading this, hope it made some spiritual sense? Please kindly drop a comment in the column below.
THE TRUTH IS: “YOU CAN’T HEAR GOD WHEN IT COMES TO WHOM TO MARRY, IF HEARING GOD HAS NEVER BEEN YOUR LIFESTYLE BEFORE.”
For some years now, quite a number of young people have been visiting a bookstore i manage to ask for books on ‘How to hear the voice of God’ or ‘How you can be led by the Spirit of God’. Perhaps you too have visited a bookstore for a similar reason?
In the event of this patronage, as I would have suspected, sometimes I try to find out – Why they want to purchase a book so titled. And I discovered that majority of them needed it because they were trusting God for a marriage partner at that time or probably because someone just proposed.
Following this discovery, I frankly counsel them that getting books that address such issues simply because one only wants to know God’s will in marriage, may not be helpful after all at such instances.
When young Christians who have been living their spiritual and physical lives majorly on their own terms up to the point marriage suddenly start looking for spiritual ear cleaner (in books) so as to be able to hear from God about choosing a life partner, one does need to be told that something is definitely wrong with that.
Waiting to hear God only at the point of choosing a life partner is like trying to take advantage of God to achieve a selfish aim. And of course, it’s not unlikely that such sincerely ‘confused’ and ‘indecisive’ individuals would afterwards dump hearing of the voice of God again until another serious need arises for it. Please listen singles- hearing and discerning the voice of the Spirit cum walking in divine direction, does not work that way.
Being able to hear God stems from having a robust personal and active relationship with Him afore time. More so, hearing God’s voice can not be done in isolation. That is, you can not decide when and what you want God to speak to you about.
Yet this is what many believers, young and old, seem to practise these days. They want to hear God only in the area they choose; but they would do what seem good to them (not Him) in other aspects. Hearing God must be all encompassing as touching matters of life and godliness, and you must be consistent in doing so.
God wants and loves to lead us (His children- Rom. 8:14; Isa. 48:17) while giving us every detail of His plans and promises for our lives that would translate to a beautiful and glorious living. But He requires our corporation from the beginning of our journey with Him not just when we need to hear from Him once in a while to meet some personal selfish needs.
That is not healthy as it were and it denies the true form of godliness we proclaim as sons and daughters of a Loving Father, the Most High God. Remember, as many as are led are the sons and daughters of God, and not users of God’s voice or direction for selfish reasons. God will guide you continually as long as you are prepared to have a relationship with Him even in seemingly little or unimportant things.
Hearing God’s voice about whom to marry is so crucial to laying a solid foundation for a blissful and fulfilling marital life. This is sacrosanct. Let no one deceive you, there is no one who should tell you or recommend to you the person you should spend the rest of your life with, besides God.
Because He is the only one who knows the end of all things and all men from the beginning. As such, He is the only perfect Match Maker.
Don’t jeopardize your life and marriage by choosing a life partner on the basis of emotions and materialism without a clear divine conviction.
May you fulfill you glorious marital destiny in Jesus name. Amen.
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“Once you make your choice, your choice starts making you.” – Pastor Bimbo Odukoya.
So singles, watch it!
I learned this from Pastor Bimbo Odukoya’s blessed memory. She happened to be my first relationship coach in the 90s. I first stumbled on this statement in her book, ‘How to Choose a Life Partner’. And it made a lot of sense to me back then. Perhaps that is why I have not forgotten it since, about 23 years ago, I read the book. I believe this profound and instructive statement gave me the much-needed impetus to get it right in my marriage. And to God be the glory, I got it right.
Although the road to it was rough and tough. It cost me nine years before I eventually settled with my present and destiny changing wife.
Please understand that in most cases, whatever experience you get out of your marriage, it’s usually based on your choice. You don’t try to blame anybody for it. So, look good if you want to go well and end well on that marital journey.
The truth is, each person who wishes to get married someday and those of us who are already in a marriage must be prepared to accept responsibility for the choice of life partner we make. This will likely help all of us to make a choice we will not regret later, by God’s grace.
“So, look well if you want to go well and end well in that marital journey.”
According to Dr. Olukoya, what you become in the future is dependent on your choice of partner. This is visibly true. That is why I do say that choice of partner equals choice of destiny. In fact, the choice of a partner also equals the choice of life. I told some youths in a seminar: “Your life does not depend on your relationship; it is your relationship that depends on your life. But when you marry, the reverseis the case.” The wisdom is this: don’t try to be in a relationship by all means as if your life depends on it. Be careful, child of God.
Note, as a single your life does not really become more beautiful because you are in a relationship.
As a matter of fact, your life must first be beautiful in itself before you can have a relationship that is beautiful. Wise singles are first purpose driven and not relationship driven.
Don’t let anyone deceive you. You don’t have to marry just anybody who is available, thinking that another person may not come your way or that you will experience a delay in getting married. Lie! Take your time so that you won’t waste it on a fruitless and frustrating marriage. Whoever you marry can make or mar your destiny; let go and let God.
Remember Ananias and Sapphira? She married a liar, or rather, he married a liar, and that cost both of them their destinies. Acts 5:1–2. If she, for instance, were someone who always speaks the truth, she would have advised her husband against that unhealthy move. And if the husband had insisted, she would have saved herself.
Naomi suffered a great and irrecoverable loss in life, among others, because she married a man who does not understand divine purpose and who does not walk in the Spirit (Ruth 1:1–8). Unlike Isaac, who blossomed with his wife and stayed in Gerar because he knew how to hear God and had a wife who encouraged him to obey divine instructions.
Ah! I have counseled people who have been traumatized in life just because of the person they married. Save your head by trusting God to help you make the right choice.
Daddy G.O (Pastor E.A. Adeboye) made a reference to what the founder of RCCG used to say about choosing a wife in one of his marriage books. He said Papa would usually say, “Don’t make a mistake in your marriage. If you carry a wrong lady, you will carry her for life.”
Talk of Jezebel and how she made her husband to govern God’s people in a reckless way. And they both ended their lives shamefully. 2 kings 21:25 & 26.
But for my wife who has stirred me up in many good ways I would not have been as progressive as I am today. Thank God I made a choice that is now making my life worth living.
If your sincere and innermost desire is to make a right choice of a life partner, I join my faith with yours to say- the Lord will do it for as he did it for me eighteen years ago.