Nigerian Man Blames Wife Over Ectopic Pregnancy and Two Miscarriages. What a World!

By Seyi Igunsabi.

I heard of this case from a very reliable source.

About five years ago, I was with a couple who happened to be my very close family friend. As we talked, my friend’s wife related this true life story to me. This happened to her distant friend, so it’s not a fiction or a tale.

The story goes thus:

This man’s wife has just had an ectopic pregnancy subsequent to two earlier miscarriages which she also suffered two years before. As at the time of this event they’ve been married for six years without a child.

For readers who do not know what an ectopic pregnancy is- it’s a situation whereby a baby grows outside the womb after the coupulation of the man’s spermatozoon and the woman’s egg.
So in most cases, if not all, it requires evacuation and it’s usually very painful, even life threatening.

His wife had hardly recovered from the emotional and physical traumas arising from the foetus evacuation when her father in-law died.
The story has it that the husband became bitter against the wife and expressed deep disappointment at that instance on the ground that his late father could not see his grandchild(ren) before his demise.

Of course, this was due to the fact that his wife miscarried twice and had an ectopic pregnancy just before the deceased Father in-law.

Now, can you believe this? What a world!
For me, this guy’s anger against his wife’s series of successive life threatening trauma sounds unbelievable to me, at the first hearing of it.
But you know what, that is what we get when ‘boys’ and immature ‘aged’ men go into the marriage institution. Like i have reiterated in virtually all my marriage seminars- “what a man does not know, he does not know.”

Just imagine the cause of his bitterness towards his own wife? Of course, it is clear that this guy does not know what marriage is all about yet he’s been married for six good years. Did I say: ‘Six good years’? Oh sorry, six questionable years.

I dare say: it is ignorance and an inhumane heart that would make any married man put up this kind of repugnant attitude towards his emotionally traumatised wife. A woman who just survived an ectopic pregnancy clearance following the loss of two pregnancies, she miscarried.

This fatal experience was more or less, a kind of natural occurrence in women. But the husband of this woman is not happy just because his father is now late, not because his wife lost her third pregnancy in six years and survived a near-death encounter.

Do you know this guy can send his wife to an early grave with this kind of attitude? He definitely does not understand marriage at all and it’s intricate knowledge. Sincerely, I sympathise with any woman that is married to this kind of insensitive man.

So i advice, don’t settle for ignorant minds in relation to marriage matters and demands. When you are dating and courting, make sure you create discussion sessions with your potential spouse. Ask questions generally about life and marriage; then listen carefully to your prospective husband or wife’s views on vital issues of life.

Courtship is not a time to choose ‘aşo-ebi’ (uniform party wear) neither is it a period to merely get to know each others family relations and friends, no. Rather it is the time you do a candid relationship-check and ascertain if your peace and joy will be guaranteed in the marriage regardless accompanying challenges.

You should also check whether this person cares for you and about you above anyone else, because that is what marriage means.

For instance in the case in point above, the young man was supposed to care more about his own wife’s health status than he bemoaned his father’s death.

Hence, wisdom demands that one marries a person who has the basic knowledge of marriage as God intended from the beginning like one does.

May the Lord help you to choose an understanding partner that will be there for you in good and difficult times.

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Thank you.

©️ MAGI.