7 DANGEROUS SIGNALS FOR QUITTING A COURTSHIP.

By Seyi Igunsabi.

These days, it is strange how some young folks who are eager to get married approach the marriage phenomenon.

Over the years I have seen engaged singles make costly mistakes that spell grave consequences for them in the future. Yet the very individuals involved seem not to be perturbed. And one common area this costly relationship mistake subsists most is in regards to letting a bad courtship lead to a marriage and quitting a courtship for weak reasons.

Courtship is a great determinant of the success or failure of seventy-five to ninety percent of marriages all over the world.

As a single or an unmarried person, if you are mindful of fulfilling a glorious marital destiny- don’t be quick to quit a courtship. Hence the need to look well before you start one. The experience takes a lot more than most engaged couples understand; it takes one’s time and other vital resources of life.

And whether you quit or stay for right or wrong reasons, please understand that: NO RELATIONSHIP LEAVES YOU THE WAY IT MET YOU.

Inasmuch as a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage, yet we are not expected to break courtships like eggs because courtships are not omelettes.

Courtship should not be broken at the slightest provocation or irritation except you want to have a dozen of it before marriage. Of course, that won’t be to your credit.

But when faced with the following dangerous signals while in a courtship, you must be bold to take necessary action and salvage your marital destiny.

THE DANGEROUS SIGNALS.

1. A courtship where the ideals of God and Christ are downplayed must not culminate in marriage.

E.g If your partner says sex before marriage or naked romance (which means everything else except penetration) is not a big deal after all- that is a red flag.

Also, a prospect who takes with levity the truth about God’s word and cares less about matters of righteousness, peace, justice, prayers and giving one’s time to God- must be watched.

2. A relationship in which there is constant disagreement can not deliver successful and blissful marriage.

Peace fuels progress in anything (Psalm 133:1). And Amos 3:3- “Can two WALK together except they are agreed.

So a courtship period that witnesses incessant strife and disagreements will unlikely produce a fulfilling marital relationship.

3. If your prospect has a major character or behavioural problem you must consider quitting that courtship even though you have spent two to five years together.

It is better to lose a friend than forfeit your destiny owing to emotions.

E.g If you know he or she still shows a keen interest in another person while you’re both in courtship, and you tried to talk about it without any positive convincing change of behaviour. That is red, definitely not green.

Singles please listen and listen good- AN OCCASIONAL LIAR WILL NOT GIVE YOU REST IN THAT MARRIAGE- deliver yourself. I mean if he or she has to lie to get through certain situations or as occasion demands – that is a major character flaw, find your way out of that relationship.

4. A person whom no one among your family and friends welcomes is a dangerous signal.

God is not an author of confusion, check your choice again with Him.

Some persons have gotten married on this premise and the hurtful consequences are their realities now. Please this is not a tale.

5. A fiancee or fiancée who is brutal and violent during Courtship is a not a wife or a husband material but a WrestleMania candidate.

Moreso, If he or she insults you, slaps you or even threaten to do it while in courtship- you should find the exit door and determine your flight time. I once counselled a lady whose fiancé threatened to throw her across a bridge as they drove over a sea, because of annoyance. Can you imagine that?
A man who slaps you in courtship will beat you in marriage – that is an uncontested fact.

6. A prospect without a sense of destiny or vision will not help you maximize your destiny.

What is he or she living for? What is his her goal in life? A man without a vision endangers your future’s security. Never marry a person who is yet to come to terms with his or her purpose and vision in life.

7. A person who does not recognise your spiritual leader or covering a long way into your courtship period is a prime suspect.

Going out with a person who does not recognise or have regards for your spiritual leader or counsellor speaks volume in an unhealthy manner. With kind of position, he or she may want to cage your spirit, distort your objective sense of reasoning and eventually manipulate things for his or her own selfish end. Wake up from your slumber.

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