It is worrisome to know that a lot of people who are getting married to checkmate loneliness don’t even know what their real problem is, and as such, they are busy applying the wrong solution. Marriage has never been the cure for loneliness, and it will never suffice until the Lord’s second coming. The truth is that when it comes to marital relationships if you have not learnt to be whole and find fulfilment in being yourself as an individual before marriage, you will still battle with loneliness and a sense of abandonment in marriage and life.

In other words, if you don’t deal with loneliness before marriage, there is a high tendency that you will become lonelier, emptier, more broken and shattered emotionally when you get married. In fact, in extreme cases you might even suffer emotional bankruptcy and abandonment in marriage, especially if you marry a someone who lacks emotional intelligence and control like you.
You know what, getting married to terminate a sense of loneliness is more like daydreaming than facing reality. Those who struggle with loneliness are naturally vulnerable and weak in terms of managing their emotions and they hardly make good marriage material.
They are like a city without walls that the Bible talked about. That is their self-control mechanism is almost non-existent.

SEE ALSO, KNOWING GOD’S WILL IN MARRIAGE by Seyi Igunsabi.

Loneliness more than anything else is a state of the mind and not a state of being. That is it has little or nothing to do with who is with you or against you. It is not a function of what have or where you live or what you earn. Rather it is more of knowing who you are (yourself) and living an intentional life as an individual created by God for specific purposes. Marrying while still exhibiting feelings of loneliness can lead to unrealistic expectations from your partner.

Moreover, relying on a partner for happiness and a sense of belonging can result in insecurity and conflicts, which isn’t conducive to a purpose-driven life. In contrast, embracing one’s individuality, pursuing personal passions, and finding contentment in oneself can build resilience against such vulnerabilities. This self-assured approach to life lessens the reliance on a partner for emotional well-being, leading to a more balanced and harmonious relationship dynamic. By becoming self-aware and independent, you can achieve a healthier balance in relationships and enhance your overall well-being.

©️ Seyi Igunsabi for M.A.G.I

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