Yes, delay is far better than denial when it comes to marriage matters.
"Unfortunately, this is some people’s reality today because they have moved from delay to denial due to anxiety."
Single individuals who desire marriage must learn to take serious caution regarding the issue of marital settlement so that they don’t move from delay to denial after a while. Unfortunately, this is the current reality for some people; I mean, their ongoing experience, which is a bitter one for that matter. Without any doubt, quite a number of unmarried folks always wish marriage could just happen for them. But you know what? The truth is, it is needless to be eager for marriage. Doing this is tantamount to someone who can not swim yet longs to jump into a wide river.
Marriage should be the last thing you want to be anxious about. I mean it in every sense of the word. Someone who is single and probably advanced in age may be saying in his or her mind: “Pastor, you can’t understand.” I can’t understand what? Do you mean I don’t understand that it is better to wait for marriage than to waste in marriage?
“Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns.“Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the centre of your life.” Phil. 4:6 & 7 (The Message)
Listen, don’t be eager for marriage; rather, be prepared for it. More often than not, if you are preparing for marriage, you will not be eager or anxious about it. Similarly, when you are anxious about marriage, it’s an indication that you are not truly prepared for that journey called marriage. This can be very costly for anyone. Perhaps nobody has told you this before; hear me: marriage is a long journey. A journey that has no destination, bus stops, or breaks because it is ‘until death do you part.’ These are some of the things that make marriage a very sensitive, serious, and slippery venture to undertake.
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Don’t allow anxiety to get the best of your marital destiny by moving you from delay to denial concerning your marital dreams. Those dreams you have are worth waiting to be actualized with the right partner at the right time. For example, cuddling is worth the wait, and those sexual fantasies are also worth waiting for. Your dream of parenting will be worth it if you just try to marry the right person. Waiting for the right destiny partner with whom you can fulfil destiny together is worth it.
You will get married; relax. When you are due, you will not be denied (Phil. 4:7). Don’t enter marriage to prove a point to anyone because at the end of the day, you will still lose the point. Check it: those who worry or are anxious about anything most times end up as victims of depression and desperation. The fruit of desperation or depression is not something you’d want to take a bite of at all. The aftertaste is always regrets and ‘If I had known.’
Marital relationships are not ‘do or die’ affairs. Rather, it is a stage of life, a phase of life, and when you are due, you won’t be denied. It’s worth the wait. It is always better to marry late than to marry wrong. Someone said, “I have never seen anybody die because they married late, but I have seen people die because they married wrong.” Be wise, friends.
©️ Seyi Igunsabi-Perez for M.A.G.I
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