Recently, following a post I made on Facebook which related to this topic; someone asked me— What do you do when your wife insults your parents to your face?
At first, the question took me by surprise, but then I realised these things do happen anyway. But come to think of it, how on earth will one’s wife insult her parents-in-law in her husband’s presence or even behind him in the first place? This, of course, will be a weird and most despicable act from any wife ever. As a matter of fact, it is disrespectful and nothing but a strong conjugal affront for a woman to even insult or say unsavoury things to her husband, who happened to be her head. This is regardless of her reason for such a regrettable action.
However, like the popular African proverb states, there is no smoke without fire. In other words, there is no effect without a cause. And this is the angle I want to address this issue from in this brief write-up.
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More often than not, this is usually the reaction of a wounded and trampled wife. Inasmuch as her action is condemnable and inexcusable, for me, her husband is still to be blamed for it. Such abominable behaviour by a wife towards her parents-in-law is an indication that the man in question has failed as a leader and teacher in his family and as a husband to his wife.
No sane wife who gets the care and respect she deserves will descend so low to insult even her husband, her head, not to mention his parents.
Often, women who engage in this kind of offensive and horrible act are those whose husbands do not respect and speak well of them before all and sundry.
Now, the truth is, if you don’t disrespect your wife, it’s often very difficult for any other person on earth to attempt it successfully. It’s quite unfortunate that these days a lot of men allow their wives to be molested and trampled on by family members and friends. Over time, some wives may want to play it safe by ignoring the shabby and disdainful treatment from their in-laws or their husband’s close associates.
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However, when this maltreatment escalates and persists, that is when a man’s wife may become uncontrollable, assaultive, and confrontational. At this point, she becomes violently defensive which results in weird reactions. Nonetheless, she is still inexcusable if she condescends so lowly to insult her parents-in-law because her husband failed to protect her from the disdainful actions of her in-laws. Two wrongs do not make a right. My counsel is that men should be intentional about protecting, loving, and respecting their wives while ensuring no one gets the temerity to assault or disrespect their wives. Once this is done, I believe their wives will be more confident in the marriage and well respected by their in-laws and friends. This, in turn, would deter, to a greater extent, relational confrontations between wives and in-laws and make them almost nonexistent.
©️ Seyi Igunsabi-Perez (for M.A.G.I)
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