This is an excerpt from the seminar I held on the 27th November 2022, at RCCG The Lord’s Ambassadors Parish, Lagos, Nigeria. A good read about at least 10 persons you must not marry.
If you are not called to be celibate (that is God has told you expressly not to marry in life), then my single brothers and sisters, whom you marry is the second most important decision you will ever make in life after answering the call to salvation. Therefore, making a wrong choice can be very costly.
DO NOT MARRY THESE CATEGORIES OF PERSONS:
1. Don’t marry anyone who is not spiritually inclined.
The spiritual undertone of your marriage requires serious minds and strong hands. Don’t say I did not tell you. 2 Corinth 6:14.
Amos 3:3 “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?”
If you are spiritual you can not go far with a partner who is not. Think well before doing it.
2. Don’t marry a guy or lady who is selfish.
God told me a long time ago: “Selfish people should not get married because they can not stay married.”
Oneness will only thrive in selflessness, not in selfishness. You can not see yourself and your partner as one and still be selfish in your dealings, it is practically impossible.
This is one of the greatest strengths of my wife and me, in about 20yrs of being together (17yrs of marriage and 4yrs of courtship. E.g During our courtship, at a time I had nothing doing and she had no work too. I will save money for my wife, fiancée then to buy her Tura soap for N60.
Now, my wife buys our toiletries and provisions that run into thousands of naira monthly since we got married and she takes care of that by herself.
3. Don’t marry anyone you cannot trust all the way.
If you have any reason to doubt a prospective spouse a little, then they are not worth a marital relationship with you. You can not manage to trust anybody, they either win your trust 100% or lose it 100%. E.g if you ask for a reliable person to do something for you and you asked a referral- Do you trust him? And he replies: I trust him a little, will you go ahead….?
4. Don’t marry a very angry person, your life will be in danger of sudden death in your marital journey.
5. Don’t marry a lazy woman or man.
Angry people are volatile and can cause sudden harm at an unexpected time and way. It is better to remain unmarried for a while than to hurry to marry a potential killer.
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Hunger and lack will be your closest neighbours. A lot of individuals are victims of this situation in their marriages these days. Anyone who is not enterprising and economically thoughtful will be a liability to you in marriage. Even when they don’t have a job at the moment, the question is: are they economically thoughtful?
6. Don’t marry anyone that can not decide by themselves rather they go to some persons before they ever make up their mind.
If they do, their mum will tell them which school to put their children in, their friends will tell them which house they should rent or buy even if they have to steal to get it.
7. Don’t marry anyone out of pity, you are not the Holy Spirit, the Comforter, face your front.
Marriage is not panadol or paracetamol for pain relief. It is a journey, a stage of life and a commitment. Marry people based on your conviction and not their condition.
8. Don’t peak in a relationship with anyone who does not fear God.
The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom and knowledge (Prov. 1:7, 9:10). This will save you from a lot of avoidable headaches and disappointments people witness in marriage. A prospect who does not fear God will not fear you and will most likely molest you in that marriage. And because they choose not to be accountable to God, they will not be accountable to you. Such prospects-turned-spouses have a very high tendency to behave rashly.
9. Don’t marry anybody who does not honour people that matter in your life over the years until you met them.
If you do, they will succeed in cutting you off from important people so that when they start molesting you- you won’t have anyone to run to.
They will manipulate you and witch-hunt you sorely. Be warned.
Romans 13:7 “Render therefore to all their due: taxes to whom taxes are due, customs to whom customs, fear to whom fear, HONOUR TO WHOM HONOUR.
10. Don’t marry a lonely person.
Marriage is not the cure for loneliness. If they feel lonely, they shouldn’t get married but get themselves first.
Many people who married because of loneliness are lonelier, sadder and emptier in marriage. You must learn to be happy and fulfilled by yourself, don’t wait until you are married.
By Seyi Igunsabi-Perez
(Family Life Practitioner, Relationship Manager, Marriage Counsellor & Seminar Facilitator)
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