By Seyi Igunsabi

As I conclude this write up, It is important to note here that whatever experience anyone gets out of marriage is never automatic neither can it be said to be spontaneous. More often than not, it is each party’s disposition and understanding that determines the way the marriage goes.

WHAT IS A BLISTERED MARRIAGE?

A Blistered marriage is just as it implies. Its obvious identity is the blisters that the marriage is infested with. What is a blister? It is the resultant effect of an injured or damaged part of the upper skin layer. It is usually caused by constant friction or heat on the affected upper layer of the skin that makes it tear away from the lower layer, thereby creating what is called blister.
Blisters are usually annoying, painful, regretful, and uncomfortable.

This is very true because I have had a good number of blisters way back in my secondary school days due to cutting of a large portion of grass area with an unsharpened or a blunt cutlass. Blisters could also be caused by burns from hot surfaces and tools.
So when I talk about a ‘blistered marriage’ it refers to a conjugal union that is characterized by constant heat and misunderstanding between a couple. The outcome is usually frequent strife, hurtful actions and reactions, spousal abuses, violence, divisions and a host of other marital anomalies.

Let’s quickly consider some features of a Blissful and a Blistered Marriage.

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FEATURES OF A BLISSFUL MARRIAGE:

1. A blissful marriage is a union where love is truly practiced and not just professed. That is, the practice of love is internalized in both couple. They know the parameters of true love and they are more than willing to apply themselves to it. Love is kind, selfless, gentle, sacrificial, humble, tolerant, shows understanding and does not keep record of wrong.

2. In a blissful marriage, both parties seek each other’s interest from a sincere heart. So what happens to one happens to both. In the light of this, sometimes, a spouse may have to sacrifice heavily for the partner in the best interest of the partner and invariably oneself.

3. It is a union of two ever ready and willing forgivers. Being forgiving is a compulsory fruit for nurturing a blissful marriage that both partners must be prepared to bite as much as possible. No couple that is without an unforgiving heart can have a blissful marriage to show for it.

4. A Blissful marriage is a home of mutual joy and peace. In a real and practical blissful home, one partner cannot be sad and the other rejoices over it. You cannot be hurting your spouse and not have wounds to nurse yourself. Yet some couples practice this without remorse. Little wonder why such marriages are used to hurts and blistered experiences.

5. A blissful home and marriage is known for the much understanding that dwell richly between the couple. Understanding is pivotal to every other factor that makes a marriage a haven of peace. So we can say, understanding itself is an underlying virtue that aid blissful relationships.

6. It is a union of respect and dignity coming from each partner to each other. Mutual respect between a couple enhances peaceful and progressive co-existence in marriage. Also, as part of showing respect towards your spouse, ensure you never respect any opposite sex more than your partner.

7. Another thing that leads to bliss in the home is putting your spouse’s interest and that of your family before any other person. This is a good morale booster for a couple and family members.

FEATURES OF A BLISTERED MARRIAGE.

1. A blistered marriage speaks of a marital relationship that is often filled with annoying and painful moments due to the constant heat or friction that ensues between a husband and his wife. This can make a couple find relating with each other well tasking while living together.

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2. It emanates from constant heated arguments and misunderstandings between two married people. It will be difficult to find a blistered marriage that is not characterized by regular conflict. The source of these conflicts may include but not limited to, usurping of spousal role in the running of the home, undue influence of third parties, financial insufficiency and unfaithfulness of either of the couple or both, to the marriage vow.

3. A blistered marriage easily gives rise to irritations between a couple owing to the frustrations  they both suffer from each other over a long period of time. And this makes either or both of them resort to isolation or alienation with one’s spouse while under the same roof. 

4. It is a marital relationship that injures one’s emotions and sometimes even the soul of a partner or both of them simultaneously. It is usually an anti-progressive experience for a couple in a blistered marriage. Because injured minds, hardly think straight and decent. For example, a lady was raped and in the process she contracted Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD), out of frustration, she made up her mind to injure many men with the same disease by giving them cheap sex.

5. A blistered marriage is likened to a war zone—nothing good comes out of it. So pray not to have one, and then work towards not having one. You won’t meet friends in a war zone, only enemies go to the battle fields and fight wars. Hence, in a blistered marriage, couples don’t have each other’s interest at heart, rather they seek to hurt themselves as if it was a goal scored against an opponent.

Thank you for reading and learning. Please kindly drop your comment.

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