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One Major Reason Why God Will Not Tell You Whom To Marry.

By Seyi IGUNSABI.

THE TRUTH IS: “YOU CAN’T HEAR GOD WHEN IT COMES TO WHOM TO MARRY, IF HEARING GOD HAS NEVER BEEN YOUR LIFESTYLE BEFORE.”

For some years now, quite a number of young people have been visiting a bookstore i manage to ask for books on ‘How to hear the voice of God’ or ‘How you can be led by the Spirit of God’. Perhaps you too have visited a bookstore for a similar reason?

In the event of this patronage, as I would have suspected, sometimes I try to find out – Why they want to purchase a book so titled. And I discovered that majority of them needed it because they were trusting God for a marriage partner at that time or probably because someone just proposed.

Following this discovery, I frankly counsel them that getting books that address such issues simply because one only wants to know God’s will in marriage, may not be helpful after all at such instances.

When young Christians who have been living their spiritual and physical lives majorly on their own terms up to the point marriage suddenly start looking for spiritual ear cleaner (in books) so as to be able to hear from God about choosing a life partner, one does need to be told that something is definitely wrong with that.

Waiting to hear God only at the point of choosing a life partner is like trying to take advantage of God to achieve a selfish aim. And of course, it’s not unlikely that such sincerely ‘confused’ and ‘indecisive’ individuals would afterwards dump hearing of the voice of God again until another serious need arises for it.
Please listen singles- hearing and discerning the voice of the Spirit cum walking in divine direction, does not work that way.

Being able to hear God stems from having a robust personal and active relationship with Him afore time.
More so, hearing God’s voice can not be done in isolation.
That is, you can not decide when and what you want God to speak to you about.

Yet this is what many believers, young and old, seem to practise these days. They want to hear God only in the area they choose; but they would do what seem good to them (not Him) in other aspects.
Hearing God must be all encompassing as touching matters of life and godliness, and you must be consistent in doing so.

Related, You Can’t Wait This Long To Get It Wrong.


God wants and loves to lead us (His children- Rom. 8:14; Isa. 48:17) while giving us every detail of His plans and promises for our lives that would translate to a beautiful and glorious living. But He requires our corporation from the beginning of our journey with Him not just when we need to hear from Him once in a while to meet some personal selfish needs.

That is not healthy as it were and it denies the true form of godliness we proclaim as sons and daughters of a Loving Father, the Most High God.
Remember, as many as are led are the sons and daughters of God, and not users of God’s voice or direction for selfish reasons.
God will guide you continually as long as you are prepared to have a relationship with Him even in seemingly little or unimportant things.

Hearing God’s voice about whom to marry is so crucial to laying a solid foundation for a blissful and fulfilling marital life. This is sacrosanct. Let no one deceive you, there is no one who should tell you or recommend to you the person you should spend the rest of your life with, besides God.

Because He is the only one who knows the end of all things and all men from the beginning. As such, He is the only perfect Match Maker.

Don’t jeopardize your life and marriage by choosing a life partner on the basis of emotions and materialism without a clear divine conviction.

May you fulfill you glorious marital destiny in Jesus name. Amen.

Check this too, ONCE YOU MAKE YOUR CHOICE, YOUR CHOICE STARTS MAKING YOU.

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ONCE YOU MAKE YOUR CHOICE, YOUR CHOICE STARTS MAKING YOU

By Seyi Igunsabi.

“Once you make your choice, your choice starts making you.” – Pastor Bimbo Odukoya.

So singles, watch it!

I learned this from Pastor Bimbo Odukoya’s blessed memory. She happened to be my first relationship coach in the 90s. I first stumbled on this statement in her book, ‘How to Choose a Life Partner’. And it made a lot of sense to me back then. Perhaps that is why I have not forgotten it since, about 23 years ago, I read the book. I believe this profound and instructive statement gave me the much-needed impetus to get it right in my marriage. 
And to God be the glory, I got it right.

Although the road to it was rough and tough. It cost me nine years before I eventually settled with my present and destiny changing wife.

Please understand that in most cases, whatever experience you get out of your marriage, it’s usually based on your choice. You don’t try to blame anybody for it. So, look good if you want to go well and end well on that marital journey.

The truth is, each person who wishes to get married someday and those of us who are already in a marriage must be prepared to accept responsibility for the choice of life partner we make. This will likely help all of us to make a choice we will not regret later, by God’s grace.

“So, look well if you want to go well and end well in that marital journey.”

According to Dr. Olukoya, what you become in the future is dependent on your choice of partner. This is visibly true. That is why I do say that choice of partner equals choice of destiny. In fact, the choice of a partner also equals the choice of life. I told some youths in a seminar: “Your life does not depend on your relationship; it is your relationship that depends on your life. But when you marry, the reverse is the case.” The wisdom is this: don’t try to be in a relationship by all means as if your life depends on it. Be careful, child of God.

Note, as a single your life does not really become more beautiful because you are in a relationship.

As a matter of fact, your life must first be beautiful in itself before you can have a relationship that is beautiful. Wise singles are first purpose driven and not relationship driven.

Don’t let anyone deceive you. You don’t have to marry just anybody who is available, thinking that another person may not come your way or that you will experience a delay in getting married. Lie! Take your time so that you won’t waste it on a fruitless and frustrating marriage. Whoever you marry can make or mar your destiny; let go and let God.

Remember Ananias and Sapphira? She married a liar, or rather, he married a liar, and that cost both of them their destinies. Acts 5:1–2. If she, for instance, were someone who always speaks the truth, she would have advised her husband against that unhealthy move. And if the husband had insisted, she would have saved herself.

Naomi suffered a great and irrecoverable loss in life, among others, because she married a man who does not understand divine purpose and who does not walk in the Spirit (Ruth 1:1–8). Unlike Isaac, who blossomed with his wife and stayed in Gerar because he knew how to hear God and had a wife who encouraged him to obey divine instructions.

Ah! I have counseled people who have been traumatized in life just because of the person they married. Save your head by trusting God to help you make the right choice.

Daddy G.O (Pastor E.A. Adeboye) made a reference to what the founder of RCCG used to say about choosing a wife in one of his marriage books. He said Papa would usually say, “Don’t make a mistake in your marriage. If you carry a wrong lady, you will carry her for life.”

Talk of Jezebel and how she made her husband to govern God’s people in a reckless way. And they both ended their lives shamefully. 2 kings 21:25 & 26.

But for my wife who has stirred me up in many good ways I would not have been as progressive as I am today. Thank God I made a choice that is now making my life worth living.

If your sincere and innermost desire is to make a right choice of a life partner, I join my faith with yours to say- the Lord will do it for as he did it for me eighteen years ago.

Thank you.

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