“Ignorant zeal is worthless; haste makes waste.” Prov.19:2
(The Message)

‘Ignorant zeal’ in the scripture above suggests being zealous to do what you don’t know how to do. More often than not, the outcome is usually fatal and very unpleasant. This is exactly what many Christian singles seem to be doing today. They are zealous about marriage stuff, yet they lack the basic knowledge needed to get married and, more importantly, to stay married.

The topic of my discussion here is something many unmarried persons have taken for granted while preparing to get married, which has led to their marital destiny being truncated and trashed. Marrying a person on the recommendation of others is perhaps one of the greatest sources of self-inflicted pain that many couples face today in life and in their marriage.

The decision about whom to marry is too sensitive and slippery for any individual to allow other people to administer. I boldly say: If you are unmarried and you don’t want your labor and desire to have a good and fulfilling marital life to be in vain after you wed, then make a decision today that you WILL NOT marry anybody based on a recommendation.

Whoever it may be – be it your friends, your pastor, a prophet, or your parents; none of these qualifies to choose or recommend a life partner to you. The simple reasons are my focus in this teaching. It’s in your own best interest to be determined to marry the person God (not anybody else) wants you to marry: the one whom He has aligned your destiny path with before you were born.

I tell you from experience when it comes to choosing a life partner, there is nothing so soothing like marrying the bone of your bone and the flesh of your flesh. A proverb among the Yorubas, a tribe in Nigeria, West Africa, says: “A guy or lady that misses it in the choice of a life partner, his or her experience is best likened to that of a log (wood) cutter who carries ant-infested log on the head while returning home from the farm.” I am sure my guess on what would follow after is as good as yours.

There are a number of things that can happen in such a scenario. One thing is certain, his journey with that ant-infested wood will likely be aborted or unsuccessful, especially if they are the black soldier ants ( with Sharp stings) of the ants family.
Similarly, most people who marry on recommendation, if not all, rarely succeed in marriage as God intended for mankind from the beginning of creation due to mismatch. They seem to always full of regrets because they did not marry whom their heart and Destiny-Maker ordained for them in life.

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Moreover, among them are those who easily give up on a marital affair when they reach a breaking point in the journey. This is because, in the first place, they had no personal conviction or guidance in choosing to marry their partners. Unfortunately, getting married is not like taking school exams, where one can resit if one fails. In marriage, one can’t simply remarry if they encounter marital problems or failure. You are expected to stay until it works out. Remember, only death should separate a couple, provided there is no domestic violence.

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1. Marriage Is All About Fulfilling Destiny.

I have come to a conclusion, after doing one or two pieces of research, that 99.9% of humanity has a destiny involving marriage. This means that all the men and women in the world who have no inclination towards celibacy (the 99.9%) will need a viable marital relationship at a set time in their lives to be able to maximize their destiny. On the other hand, the remaining less than 0.1%, who are celibates, will be able to live a full life without marriage. Among them were Jesus Christ, Paul, Elijah, Elisha, etc. Additionally, we have present-day Reverend Fathers, monks, and other individuals separated for religious reasons, primarily.

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For clarification, a celibate is someone who has never been involved in a carnal or sensual relationship with the opposite sex and does not intend to try one in the future.

So, if this is the case, then no man, regardless of status, is accurate enough to link you up with a destiny partner than the Destiny Maker Himself. He is the ONLY and UNMISTAKABLE Perfect Match Maker of men and women when it comes to marriage and maximizing destiny. No one knows our frame like God.

The word of God in Psalm 95:6 says the Lord is our Maker. He is the script writer of our destinies according to Psalm. 139:17- “

“Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book, they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them.”

So, it’s practically impossible to depend on any man to connect you with your destiny partner when he was not there when you were formed in your mother’s womb; neither are such individuals privy to the book of destiny written about you by the destiny scriptwriter Himself. Therefore, since there is a strong relationship between our marriage and destiny, it is destiny-threatening to thrust the choice of a marriage partner to the judgment of any mortal man.

Because the Lord Himself sets each of our destinies before we even show up here in this life, He knows who fits perfectly into our destiny mold. As such, we cannot afford to subject this destiny-making decision to the control of some human recommendations and manipulations.

It will amaze you to know that the majority of couples and marriages that are arranged usually end up as victims of human and emotional manipulation. This is verifiable all around us. Without any doubt, countless people have had their destinies distorted due to this misguided approach to a serious matter like marriage. Irrespective of the contrary opinions of some individuals regarding the criticism of this process of choosing a life mate, I maintain that only the Almighty has the prerogative to connect people with their destiny partners, especially those who live for Him.

Please, kindly read up the concluding part of this write up under the topic – ‘Can My Pastor, Prophet or Parents Choose for Me? Thank you.

©️ MAGI

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