A mindset to marry specific people for specific reasons has been one of the major causes of marital delay in some singles’ lives. Honestly, this should not be the fundamental yardstick for making the right choice and living happily in marriage thereafter.
For example, taking pleasure in marrying a person who practises the same profession as your parents is not completely out of place, at least if done with a purposeful mind. However, a desire to marry someone who practises a similar profession as you or your parents could also be deceptive if you don’t check it with God sincerely. Some young folks want to marry a lawyer or a doctor simply because it’s either of their parents professions. This is dangerous.
I once met a lady who said she could not have married a man who is not like her father. And I shook my head over that statement with the hope that her marriage would be working since she has married a man like her father. I met her in an office I went to do a supply, so I could not engage her further in the matter.
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Similarly, some men have this notion that the thought of marriage would be considered after they have amassed wealth or become comfortable materially. This is far from the truth about getting married and fulfilling one’s marital destiny.
Also, we will often see young ladies who have been told that getting married early is like a ‘do or die affair’, hence some of these ones find themselves rushing into relationships as single ladies, but they hardly make anything out of it. At the end of the day, they would have had three to four relationships spanning six to ten years and would still be single.
All of these mentalities must be put in proper perspective and utilised in an objective manner to prevent marital delay. Otherwise, a wrong mental approach towards one’s marital dream will continue to cause a serious delay in its actualization. Because our thoughts influence our actions significantly, which determine our results in virtually all things.
©️ Seyi Igunsabi
(Author, Family-Life Practitioner and Social media Influencer)
Tel: 0701 020 0027
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